心路。歷程

Boxing Day

2011-12-26T13:38:00.002+08:00

Hmm....very long time no update this blog.
Have been very busy getting and attaining my dream! ^^

Believe and you will get it.. shall take this few days to review my new year resolutions. Hahaha, seems like the blog is only on my resolutions every year :p

This is the how many years I've declare my resolutions? And how much I've achieve?

Let's wait for a few more days!!

Happy Boxing day!

Overcoming fear and rejections

2011-09-17T19:26:00.001+08:00

Have embarked on a new journey and adventure of Direct salea marketing. Been there before but not successful. I saw the viability this time round and I will make sure I do great!

Finally my dream of being financially free in 10 years time is no longer a dream. Really is a case of 想就有。 Ahhh...the beauty of The Secret and The Law of Attraction. I am still practising it and not giving it up. I know when I master the Secret of Mind, nothing will be in my way.

But first challenge is still overcoming the fear of rejection. I should look forward towards my goal and not be distracted. Your true friends will stick by you no matter what. Yes! I will not look back but only have my eyes at the end of the tunnel.

Go ger, this is another chance to prove what you are make up of!

Life

2011-08-16T13:03:00.000+08:00

Who would have thought that I will get inspiration from washing hair?

I was having my hair washed yesterday when it strike me the purpose of life again.
At least in metropolitan cities like ours, what we are concern is consumerism. The purpose you are working, wanting to earn more is all for spending...no?

So you study, you work, you spend and I guess that is what is all abt.
Of cos there are cases whereby you return good to the society and find other fulfillment but essentially, you are still earning money to spend.

Is that all there is in life? Spending time with your love ones.... you also need bread on the table to make sure they are not starving.. you can't live on love alone.

Hiaz... maybe the true meaning of life is to find and challenge yourself. To push yourself to the edge and see what you can accomplish. At least to me, this is what life is about.... of cos with the money too... :p

Another Birthday

2011-08-14T23:27:00.000+08:00

Yeah...I'm 34 today! Haven been visiting this blog for a long time.
But I'll be posting more when I get my new camera... watch this space!

Here's a pic of my Bday cake....

Another year of small cake...lol

Simple ice cream.....

Happy 34th Birthday to me! :)

After a long long time

2011-05-31T14:17:00.000+08:00

Haven been writing much since my last post in Feb. Read through my resolutions... haha , dun think I even did 1of them! :p

Will remember to monitor closely for the rest for the year...

Some updates.. I'm married in Mar to a wonderful man. A man who truly loves and treasure me. Lucky bitch me.. :)

It's been a while since I last got in touch with my inner self.

该是重出江湖的时候了！

Black Swan

2011-02-19T19:52:00.000+08:00

Black Swan

A psychological thriller set in the world of New York City ballet, BLACK SWAN stars Natalie Portman as Nina, a featured dancer who finds herself locked in a web of competitive intrigue with a new rival at the company (Mila Kunis). A Fox Searchlight Pictures release by visionary director Darren Aronofsky (THE WRESTLER), BLACK SWAN takes a thrilling and at times terrifying journey through the psyche of a young ballerina whose starring role as the duplicitous swan queen turns out to be a part for which she becomes frighteningly perfect. BLACK SWAN follows the story of Nina (Portman), a ballerina in a New York City ballet company whose life, like all those in her profession, is completely consumed with dance. She lives with her retired ballerina mother Erica (Barbara Hershey) who zealously supports her daughter,s professional ambition. When artistic director Thomas Leroy (Vincent Cassel) decides to replace prima ballerina Beth MacIntyre (Winona Ryder) for the opening production of their new season, Swan Lake, Nina is his first choice. But Nina has competition: a new dancer, Lily (Kunis), who impresses Leroy as well. Swan Lake requires a dancer who can play both the White Swan with innocence and grace, and the Black Swan, who represents guile and sensuality. Nina fits the White Swan role perfectly but Lily is the personification of the Black Swan. As the two young dancers expand their rivalry into a twisted friendship, Nina begins to get more in touch with her dark side with a recklessness that threatens to destroy her.

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Thumbs up for this show!

It was a bit draggy in the beginning but it had me tearing at the very end...

I guess those pursuing the perfection in their art forms will relate to Nina. Her quest to immersed herself into the role to achieve and portray the best for the audience as well as herself. Maybe that is why we see most artist as emotionally vulnerable people. They have to be open in order to experience what the role is. That is why we see so many actors or artiest embroiled in emotion turmoil and unable to withdraw themselves out of the character. Maybe it will only take a perfectionist to understand what Nina is going thru...

I totally feel her and applaud the crew and cast for brining us this great work..

期待

2011-01-06T18:01:00.000+08:00

看到和自己一样bridal saloon 的新人的婚纱照，好期待21号的到来。好兴奋哦！:p

謊言和真實

2011-01-02T00:19:00.001+08:00

很久很久以前
謊言和真實在河邊洗澡
謊言先洗好穿了真實的衣服走
真實卻不肯穿謊言的衣服

後來
人們的眼裡只有穿著真實衣服的謊言
卻很難接受赤裸裸的真實.

Something from 洛客国度

Welcome 2011

2010-12-31T17:47:00.003+08:00

Yo friends,

A blink and its the last day of 2010. I'm so very happy and heartening to see my friends writing and planning for the coming year in their facebook or blog entries.

Before I begin let me just write down some adventures I had just now, the last day of the year.

I'm in the mood to dress up and do some reflection and planning in a cafe or maybe some wine some finger food. But it had to rain when I arrived location and got myself drenched in the process... so much for being chic and class...hahaha. Worse thing was that I got to know the restaurant I wanna go has been taken over and it will only open at 4pm (its 3.30 when t'm there)

Still not too bad, since I'm already half wet, might as well go over to Clarke Quay and see what I can have. Now in a Spanish restaurant eating tapas and having some wine. Not yet in the mood to do what I am supposed to do. Maybe I will later once I change my seat to along the river.... haha. k...back to my food first.... :p

Cont'd

Now at TCC with a cuppa. Hopefully can start what I wanted to do initially...haha.

A bit tipsy, but the feeling is wonderful...

Above taken from the notes of my FB. :p

Kk, my time to review now. Lets review what I've written at the beginning of the year.

2010 New Year Resolution

1. Sign up for my Spanish dance class.. (3 years liao leh, haven even fulfilled all these years :( )
Done! Successfully signed up and going strong. :)

2. Go for volunteering events to contribute back to the society
Erm... failed :( In fact I did not do anything ..... shall make it a point in 2011.

3. To start my Forex acct and start trading to make some real money V^^
Failed. Kept giving excuses. Shall not procrastinate in 2011

4. To look out for good opportunities for property investment
Pass! Bought silver and did some other investment. Got an oversea investment too! Things gonna be better in 2011.

5. To accumulate wealth
Good market, loses came back for most. Will keep it going in 2011

6. To drink more water and eat healthier
Reduced weight, yes. Drink more water...no :( Will continue the strive next year!

7. To be grateful for all that I have and to live my life as I wanted it
Yes! Finally getting married soon. And I'm grateful for all I have :)

8. Go HK/Japan/Korea/Spain/Rome etc etc
Went Bkk... counted? Hahaha. Will be going Jap and HK next year! Yeah!!

Not too much of my resolution fulfilled have I? :(
But I think I got the most impt thing in my life this year. I got myself a husband who truly loves me and is so sweet... :)

I'm now coming 34 and I'm almost half of my productive years.
I will make sure I stick to this year's resolutions strictly.
Bring it on!

2011 Resolutions

Career

1. Revise and read up more to improve my knowledge and skills

2. To be more gentle and truly feel for the patients in distress.

Wealth

1. To start planning for biz ventures after wedding and house.

2. To continue to accumulate and have abundance through my investments.

3. To look for creative ways to increase my revenue

4. To start on forex

Hobbies

1. To do 1 hobby eg. read a book, make a decoupage, laze and dream once a month.

2. To continue to improve my Flamenco skills

3. To go for a musical or dance performance

Health

1. To drink more water and to maintain a slim silhouette

Family

1. To be more sensitive to mum's wishes and needs

2. To maintain a harmonious family life with Darling

3. To spend time with people I love and important to me

Self-improvement

1. Finished reading all self-improvement books on hand.

2. Practice and put to use all these skills from 7 habits and The Secret.

3. To continue to feel bless and grateful for all wonderful things that happened to me

More good years ahead of me!
Wishing all a very fruitful and wonderful new year!
Welcome 2011!
YEAH!

Christmas 2010

2010-12-25T16:53:00.001+08:00

Yo all, its Christmas again for year 2010. Its gonna be a brand new year soon!
一年的回顾，明年的计划。。是时候了。
愿朋友们圣诞节快乐～ Merry Christmas 2010!!

回忆

2010-11-01T01:31:00.000+08:00

每每听到某些往日的歌曲，思绪也不由自主的回到过去。是件好事吗？我不能回答。我太怀旧了。每当我听到哪一首往日的歌，我就会想到曾经那段感情。

我觉得我不该有太多的回忆，它会让我留恋从前......那段回不去的光阴。

My first Silver Eagle

2010-09-10T23:15:00.000+08:00

Got my first 3 tubes of silver eagles. Hmm what Peter said is true, when you start, you tend to keep collecting more and more... hahaha.

Looking forward to more silver collection :)

Trauma Paramedic Conversion Course

2010-08-22T21:26:00.000+08:00

Just came back from the conversion course. So that means after this course we will be deployed alongside with the rescuers to the ruins to stabilize trapped victims.

New tab to show the difference...but I hate the color....

Birthday 2010

2010-08-22T21:21:00.002+08:00

Went to JB for a short getaway this year on my birthday. Blur Darling missed the opportunity to proposed to me AGAIN... *roll eyes*

Only managed to get these 3 small cakes plus a candle.... :(

Happy 33rd Birthday!

Inception (2010)

2010-07-22T13:55:00.000+08:00

Dom Cobb is a skilled thief, the absolute best in the dangerous art of extraction, stealing valuable secrets from deep within the subconscious during the dream state, when the mind is at its most vulnerable. Cobb's rare ability has made him a coveted player in this treacherous new world of corporate espionage, but it has also made him an international fugitive and cost him everything he has ever loved. Now Cobb is being offered a chance at redemption. One last job could give him his life back but only if he can accomplish the impossible-inception. Instead of the perfect heist, Cobb and his team of specialists have to pull off the reverse: their task is not to steal an idea but to plant one. If they succeed, it could be the perfect crime. But no amount of careful planning or expertise can prepare the team for the dangerous enemy that seems to predict their every move. An enemy that only Cobb could have seen coming.

Cool show. Dreams within dreams. 2 messages for me....

1. A thought is like a seed planted into your brain. It will grow and feed like virus...

Cobb: [from trailer] What's the most resilient parasite? An Idea. A single idea from the human mind can build cities. An idea can transform the world and rewrite all the rules.

Remember The Secret

2. Humans tend to stay in the planes that coincide most with their dreams and wishes. That is why we have so many disillusioned patients in mental hospitals that dun wanna come out of their trace and back to the reality. I find the part whereby the people sleep to be "awake" into their reality most disturbing. But who are we to judge? Anyone can stay at the place they are happiest in..... we have the choice and only we can make that choice.

I like intriguing stories...bring it on!

Politics and such

2010-07-17T15:24:00.000+08:00

Haiz, it is so demoralizing and sad whenever I head anything abt the MIW in recent years. How strong those grievances we true blue Singaporeans are throwing up. I used to support the MIW also when I was younger. I am proud to be a Singaporean and that my government is corruption free and far-sighted enough to bring us to a higher plane.

However, as reality sinks in (or maybe I am older and wiser), I started to see things differently. There is no denial that MIW had brought us to great heights in such a short time but you start to see differences in behaviors as our leaders changes.

Like I always maintained, humans are greedy by nature. You give them a penny, they will want a pound. Our leaders have totally forgotten their mission and responsibilities and is concerned only about how to make their pockets fatter. Yes, we are being run like a corporation. "Better, faster, cheaper" so can our million dollars ministers walk the talk? Can they make themselves better, faster and cheaper? No.. it is different for them, they deserved their million dollar salaries. I guess we all have to face the hard facts that we are just cows working for their benefit.

I am so sad and disappointed in life....
Fuck the hell.... why do we even exist?

武林秘籍

2010-06-22T19:17:00.000+08:00

Interesting find.... notebooks. :)

Click on title for original post

惜福

2010-06-05T16:16:00.001+08:00

一篇让人深思的网络文章, 和大家分享。
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深夜，寺里一人一佛，佛坐人站。

人：圣明的佛，我是一个已婚之人，我现在狂热地爱上了另

一个女人，我真的不知道该怎幺办。

佛：你能确写你现在爱上的这个女人就是你生命里唯一的最后一个女人吗？

人：是的。

佛：你离婚，然后娶她。

人：可是我现在的爱人温柔，善良，贤惠，我这样做是否有一点残忍，有一点不道德。

佛：在婚姻中没有爱才是残忍和不道德的，你现在爱上了别人已不爱她了，你这样做是正确的。

人：可是我爱人很爱我，真的很爱我。

佛：那她就是幸福的。

人：我要与她离婚后另娶她人，她应该是很痛苦的又怎幺会是幸福的呢？

佛：在婚姻里她还拥有她对你的爱，而你在婚姻中已失去对她的爱，因为你爱上了别人，正谓拥有的就是幸福的，失去的才是痛苦的，所以痛苦的人是你。

人：可是我要和她离婚后另娶她人，应该是她失去了我，她应该才是痛苦的。

佛：你错了，你只是她婚姻中真爱的一个具体，当你这个具体不存在的时候，她的真爱会延续到另一个具体，因为她在婚姻中的真爱从没有失去过。所以她才是幸福的而你才是痛苦的。

人：她说过今生只爱我一个，她不会爱上别人的。

佛：这样的话你也说过吗？

人：我。我。。我。。。

佛：你现在看你面前香炉里的三根蜡烛，那根最亮。

人：我真的不知道，好象都是一样的亮。

佛：这三根蜡烛就好比是三个女人，其中一根就是你现在所爱的那个女人，芸芸众生，女人何止千百万万，你连这三根蜡烛那根最亮都不知道，都不能把你现在爱的人找出来，你为什么又能确定你现在爱的这个女人就是你生命里唯一的最后一个女人呢？

人：我。我。。我。。。

佛：你现在拿一根蜡烛放在你的眼前，用心看看那根最亮

人：当然是眼前的这根最亮。

佛：你现在把它放回原处，再看看那根最亮

人：我真的还是看不出那根最亮。

佛：其实你刚拿的那根蜡烛就是好比是你现在爱的那个最后的女人，所谓爱由心生，当你感觉你爱她时，你用心去看就觉的它最亮，当你把它放回原处，你却找不到最亮的一点感觉，你这种所谓的最后的唯一的爱只是镜花水月，到头来终究是一场空。

人：哦，我懂了，你并不是要我与我的爱人离婚，你是在点化我，

佛：看破不说破，你去吧

人：我现在真的知道我爱的是谁了，她就是我现在的爱人。

佛：阿弥陀佛，阿弥陀佛

你我曾经深爱过的某人，无非也就是芸芸众生中的一个，只是爱由心生，自以为他/她会是今生最爱，当你感觉你爱她，你用心去爱就觉的他/她最珍贵，当万物归原，生命仍然继续，他/她无非也就是我们生命中的一个过客。

我们根本无法确定哪一个才是今生最爱，如果不懂得去珍惜，你身边这个爱你的/你爱的人，在某一天，也会成为你身边的过客。

找一个你爱的人不容易，找一个爱你的人也不容易。如果无法确定哪一个才是你最爱的人，何不在自己成为别人的爱人的时候珍惜这份感情？爱由心生，你告诉自己是爱他/她的，自然就可以爱上他/她。

如果你爱的人不爱你，也请记得：爱由心生。是你太过于把目光集中在他/她身上了，试着放开视线焦点，你会发现光亮的蜡烛到处都有。

爱与不爱，无非也就是在一念之间。

过去的事情过去的爱情，就让它过去吧，那只是我们生命的一部分，只是茫茫大海中的一滴水珠，只是漫漫苍弩中的一粒微尘。没有那些过去，也不会造就现在的你我。

珍惜当前，永远胜于三心二意

Ready, Get Set, Go!

2010-05-25T01:35:00.000+08:00

Yoz, have been felling quite restless these few days. Seems like nothing is moving. Days are just pasting by. :(

I am already 33 this year, time to get my butt up and do something in my life! Life is short, must live each day fully ^^

Fast fast realise all my dreams... I still have 10 years to reach financial freedom.
Add oil my ger, gotta bite the bullet and hang on... we are taking the fast train.

Ready, Get Set, Go!

Revamped

2010-05-14T22:26:00.001+08:00

Changed the skin for my blog. Haven been doing this since I last used...diaryland. :p
Anyway the point is I have been shifting house for my blog from diaryland -> ebloggy -> blogspot.
And from my archives, seems like the post is becoming lesser and lesser as time goes by.
Hmm... I started blog writing in 2003 bah. Wah, 7 years already!!

Nothing for the post...just random rantings only..haha

Friends

2010-05-09T13:05:00.002+08:00

Hmm... quite an unfamiliar term for me. Perhaps due to my character and experience, I have only very few friends that I can trust. I tried recalling when was the time when I innocently trusted and exposed my vulnerability to my so called friend and got hurt terribly. Was it during kindergarden or Primary school? I dun think I ever recovered from those experiences.

As of now, I have only a handful of friends whom I really call friends. Dun know, maybe I'm just not comfortable with some people and we can never be real friends. Acquaintance maybe, but never real friends. Should I be bothered? Nah, just random rantings and being emo. I shall stick to my present stand and shouldn't be too bothered.

Flea.Fly.Flo.Fun

2010-04-21T00:06:00.002+08:00

Had great fun with Joan @ Flea.Fly.Flo.Fun at the pit building that day. Set up a booth to sell our pre-loved clothes and accessories. Surprisingly it was those obiang ones that sold out first..haha.
Managed to earn back our rent with a few dollars to spare which........we spend it on other things from other booths :p

Great experience and I can now donate those leftovers to the charities. ^^

April 2010

2010-04-20T00:41:00.004+08:00

So fast, it's mid April already... what have you done so far this year?

Time check:
1. Did my dance classes
2. Brought a property
3. Gonna start writing business plans to chase my dreams

I suddenly felt very empty tonight. Is it because of the rain? Haiz, I should spend more time feeding my soul with music, dance and everything beautiful and tranquil..

简单的享受

2010-04-03T17:16:00.004+08:00

今早心血来潮一个人到牛车水小贩中心吃早餐。空中祢满着好久没闻到的湿巴杀独特气味（不是我喜欢的 :p)。吃着津津有味的江鱼仔酿豆腐，听着耳熟能详的怀旧金曲，这不就是简单人生的一大享受吗？^^

Victoria Theater

2010-03-23T18:05:00.005+08:00

Heard that Victoria Theater will be closed in Apr 2010 for renovation. Managed to capture it before it is closed. This place held lots of dear and happy memories for me. I still remembered my first and subsequent performances. It's stage is where I am the star.... to unleash my potential, to mesmerise the audience and to draw them into the dances.

曲终人散，不知何时能再次回到你的舞台上。我们后会有期.....

In remembrance of Clement

2010-02-11T23:51:00.007+08:00

Everyday we save a lot of lives but then who will save ours..???

This was one of my colleague FB status last Thursday.... who would have thought it is so apt now.
Just got a very depressing news abt another of my colleague.
Though I am not very close to him, it is still sad to know someone you knew passed on....

Clement, I dun know what went through your mind to do what you did. But I do hope you will be happy and finally free from worries in this earthly world.

May you rest in peace

Energised and ready to go!

2010-01-31T21:32:00.003+08:00

Been almost a month since my last update. Went to a trip in Genting and KL. Got to relax myself and enjoy a holiday with bf. And I finally started my flamenco dance class!! Can you believe all that I want and wish is coming to me?! Rem the prev entry I wrote on The Secret? It really works! What I have asked for is coming true for me (except the $20k part) hahaha. Maybe its something I did not do right..*shrug* But whatever, I'm gonna make it come true for me. ^^

I asked to be a savvy property investor and I want passive income. Guess what? I was intro to a property investment course by accident..(or was it?). I was very interested but I was financially not ready yet and the course fees were a bit steep to me. So I told myself that I will attend their future previews and see if I can get a better price. I sprain my ankle on my way to a preview... I dun know if it was the universe way of deterring my journey. But on the night before the next preview, I told myself that I will only sign on the course if the fees were below $3000. During that preview they offered the course fees as $2995! What can I say?

I have just came back from the program and it is totally worth the money... From now on, I am going to see money in a different angle, I want to be a big player. I also have to be more discipline to see thru the goals I have created. Trust me, I am going to live my life more fully and meaningfully from now on. I am going to take action and create the life that I want.

I am happy and live in abundance.
I have a healthy and happy relationship with my love
I am pretty and young and healthy
I am taking action to create wealth for myself
I believe these are coming to me and am grateful for all that I have and yet to come ^^

All that you can be is within you. Only you can unleash the potential in you. No one can make you unhappy if you want to be happy. Know that as a fact! ^^

May the wisdom be with you!

Happy 2010

2010-01-01T12:46:00.003+08:00

Yoz, another year has past. Good things happened, sad things happened. You could say it was an eventful year. Sorted out my tots, clearer on my destination. Yeah, not a bad year for me.. ^^

My future is bright and I'm filled with anticipation. Anticipating better and bigger things to come. I'm sure I am working towards my goals and future. Did not list down much resolution last year.. wait wait, lemme dig up my last new year entry...

I guess the main thing I wanna do in 2009 is to live life fully. Really gotta join the dance class which I have been talking about for 2 years... :p

Alright, live life fully..okay lar. At least I can see my future and what I want to work towards. Well, I'm back to my enthu self... gonna list a list of New Year resolution again!!

2010 New Year Resolution

1. Sign up for my Spanish dance class.. (3 years liao leh, haven even fulfilled all these years :( )

2. Go for volunteering events to contribute back to the society

3. To start my Forex acct and start trading to make some real money V^^

4. To look out for good opportunities for property investment

5. To accumulate wealth

6. To drink more water and eat healthier

7. To be grateful for all that I have and to live my life as I wanted it

8. Go HK/Japan/Korea/Spain/Rome etc etc

Think that shall be all for now. Really need to get down to s/no. 1 and 2. :p

Wishing all a Happy and fruitful 2010!!!

Christmas 2009

2009-12-25T15:17:00.001+08:00

又是圣诞了！Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

精神粮食

2009-12-18T00:35:00.002+08:00

这几天休假都泡在书展里，当然荷包也大出血了！哈哈！除了到 Suntec City 的 BookFest, 我也上了到本地 Vivo City 靠岸的 “水上书展” Doulos 轮船。以上是我的战胜品... :p

On countries

2009-12-12T16:43:00.002+08:00

I was reading the papers yesterday and today and 2 articles caught my attention. The first was one reporting our pretty impressive results in the SEA Games and some observations the journalist had.

It caught his attention that Singaporeans thrives very well in individual sports eg air rifle, bowling, swimming, wushu... we can have the top coaches, instructors whom can help us polish our routine and with our own diligence and hard work produced impressive results. Yet we do not perform so well in games or sport where we have to be face to face with our opponents as in the likes of soccer, badminton etc.

He thinks that is due to our educational system which I agree with him. We have been drilled since young to follow instructions but we are never comfortable with confrontation and the need to think of counter attacks instantaneously. I guess we have been living in very pampered and comfortable life that we do not have to really think abt the hash reality if survival living. Tt is a challenge that I might wan to take up myself. To test my limits... Very interesting.

The other article I read was abt the country Rwanda. The image conjured up by most ppl would be the infamous genocide where it left 1 million ppl dead in a span of 100 days. In facing the aftermath of the tragedy, the country us ready to move ahead and get out of poverty to make sure no such tragedy will happen again.

Singapore is partnering them in sharing our development experience. I read the many articles on how committed and hungry this country is on developing their country as the Singapore in Africa.

In this country make up mostly of young ppl most of whom are orphans from the genocide, they are willing to forgive and move forward for the better good of her future generation. Their hope for a better future touches me..... I can actually feel the warmth in my stomach and even believe that they can make it.

Those Rwandans (is that what they call themselves ?) who were overseas felt they have a part to play in shaping the future of Rwanda, came back to their motherland to contribute their expertise. It makes me wonder shld anything happen to Singapore, will Singaporeans feel the obligation and responsibility to contribute? I most certainly will. There is just this patriotic feeling that this is my home, I have a part to play in protecting it. So I am STILL the patriotic girl who signed on because of "duty, honor, country".... hahaha

The mother's tale

2009-12-06T16:04:00.001+08:00

"From the warm light of her sleeping baby's nursery, the curve of her husband's arm, the soft embrace of an old friend, the anonymous narrator of THE MOTHER'S TALE whispers to you her intimate fears, her deepest held desires. In the suburbs, a young mother is looking after her two children. She used to be a successful career woman in control of her life and with her husband's undivided attention. But now her control is slipping away. Motherhood is devouring her life. She is desperate to reclaim her sense of self, even if that means thinking the unthinkable. From its softly lit beginning to its explosive, emotional conclusion THE MOTHER'S TALE takes the reader on a journey to the dark recesses of one woman's heart and mind; right to the truths that are never spoken, the thoughts that are not written about. THE MOTHER'S TALE is a taut, beautifully constructed book which, once begun, cannot be put down, told by a narrator who will not be easily forgotten. It engages and confronts, and will provoke discussion for a long time to come."

Came across this book review in today's ST. Author is Camilla Noli. It is abt a distraught mother and her struggle with her identity, motherly responsibilities n worth. This book is not one of those inspiring kind rather much the opposite. Dun think I shld read it since I am alr so skeptical abt being a mother... It might just deter me more :p

Maybe 1 day I will read it if I overcome my reservations....

Casablanca

2009-11-16T00:42:00.004+08:00

Just watch this classic on okto. Sweet story, beautiful actress....

乱世儿女，恩怨情长。我好幸运不是出世在那年代.....

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to heaven, we were all going direct the other way - in short, the period was so far like the present period, that some of its noisiest authorities insisted on its being received, for good or for evil, in the superlative degree of comparison only.

Charles Dickens, A Tale of Two Cities

It was this song that prompted me to watch this classic

"Casablanca - Bertie Higgins"

I love this song, or the 80's love songs for that matter.

I love all things classic.. including these black and white movies. Though they look outdated compared to our modern technology, there is something special in them. Maybe it's the songs, maybe it's the charisma of the actors or maybe just simply the effects of black and white that rouses nostalgic feelings.

I love their hairdo, I love their dresses, I love their makeup... hmm... maybe I should be in a museum... :p

Sixlives.sg

2009-11-15T20:33:00.005+08:00

I have heard abt this project but never got ard to finding out more abt it.
Finally got to it thru Mr Brown

Check it out! That is a innovative way to engage the tech-savvy demography now... interesting!

Dark eye rings vs Gothic make-up

2009-11-13T17:29:00.006+08:00

Gothic smoky eye make-up must be invented for females like me...... it completely camouflage my dark eye rings. :p

I may even be commented on being trendy...... ha

Rubbish art

2009-11-04T16:44:00.005+08:00

酱才叫艺术..... :p

Courtesy of RedForum (Ah Dot shu shu)

Pearl Bank Apartments

2009-11-04T15:07:00.003+08:00

Have heard abt this condo project from various medias. Always wanted to see for myself. Finally got a call today to the location. Was very breezy and really nice view. Too bad the patient came down from her room herself. Would have like to go up and kaypo the house a bit... :p

Security is tight now so I guess it will not be easy to explore by myself. Really wanted to see for myself the unique structure of the building. Have always liked the older projects cos units are much much bigger then the pigeon holes we have now......

More of the interior in its glorious days......

Panorama view from the top units....

More from here

Me time

2009-11-02T16:25:00.004+08:00

Nothing beats a warm peppermint mocha with a muffin on this raining afternoon.... :)

The Optimist Creed

2009-10-16T00:43:00.003+08:00

I Promise Myself that

To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.

To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet.

To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud word, but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.

Christian D. Larson, 1922

This is the promise I will recite to myself every morning.
The power of positive thinking and Law of Attraction.
I think therefore I am

"My wish is your command"

爱心

2009-09-21T14:24:00.004+08:00

爱心 cupcakes.... 甜进心坎里咯! 嘻嘻!

大餐

2009-09-03T17:50:00.002+08:00

Was thinking of eating a sumptuous meal today... Kinda moody :(

Went to the bookstore and managed to get my hands on 张小娴 's new books!

Now I m statisfied with just a club sandwich n tea from Hans. 有了精神粮食，够饱了！

牽手

2009-08-29T01:18:00.003+08:00

In a Chinese modern dance competition on TV one very unique couple won one of the top prizes.

The lady, in her 30's, was a dancer who had trained since she was a little girl....
Later in life, she lost her entire left arm in an accident and fell into a state of depression for a few years.

Someone then asked her to coach a Children's dancing group.
From that point on, she realized that she could not forget dancing.
She still loved to dance and wanted to dance again.
So, she started to do some of her old routines, but, having lost her arm, she had also lost her balance.

It took a while before she could even make simple turns and spins without falling.
Then she heard of a man in his 20s who had lost a leg in an accident.
He had also fallen into the usual denial, depression and anger type of emotional roller coaster.

But, she was determined to find him and persuade him to dance with her..
He had never danced, and to dance with one leg....are you joking with me? ??"No way!"

But, she didn't give up, and he reluctantly agreed thinking, "I have nothing else to do anyway." She started to teach him dancing.

The two broke up a few times because he had no concept of using muscle, how tocontrol his body, and knew none of the basic things about dancing.
When she became frustrated and lost patience with him, he would walk out.

Eventually, they came back together and started training seriously.
They hired a choreographer to design routines for them.
She would fly high (held by him) with both arms (a sleeve for an arm) flying in the air.

P.S. 看的当儿，我不竟流泪。我是那么的感动.......毕竟我是个舞者，完完全全能体会个中滋味。

我还是不能放弃舞蹈....

KL Trip

2009-08-16T02:16:00.006+08:00

Some pics I took during the trip

Petronas Twin Tower

View from KL Tower

KL monorail

Sweet 32

2009-08-16T01:52:00.002+08:00

Went to KL for a short trip during my Bday... another year has passed... so many things happened.
Anyway, new age means new break-through.

Welcome sweet 32.

Coffee & Strudel

2009-08-06T20:24:00.003+08:00

Life's simple pleasures :)

面壁思过

2009-07-30T23:17:00.002+08:00

昨天一个人到 Ion Orchard 逛逛。肚子饿了便到 Burger King 买了个汉堡。一个人嘛不想占太多位，于是找了个柜台坐位，是对着一幅很 hip 的壁画。可是这一区却是在一个角落，远离人群。这不竟让我感慨业者设计这个角落的用意。是为了让忙忙碌碌每天穿梭在人群中的上班族有个安静的角落，或者是让那些不再懂的／想和其他人类有多余接触的朋友的安全网。

记得有个在电脑行业就职的朋友说过：“有时我宁愿对着电脑也不愿对着任何人”。真的是这样吗？我们是不是太依赖科技来为我们传达信息与感情？日本已请了传家来教导学生们如何微笑，因为大家都已经习惯了用 :) :( >< :p lol 等网络与简讯语言来传情达意。我们真的那么悲哀吗？

又或者虽然穿梭在人群，但依然倍感孤独的朋友不想让来往人群看到他们孤单的样子。只宁愿被看到的只是他们的背影....

这便是我绞着汉堡，面壁思过的问题..... 嘻！

爱情考验

2009-05-26T18:59:00.002+08:00

经过考验的爱情才更坚定

Only Love that weathered storms withstands the test of time

看破红尘

2009-05-23T23:11:00.001+08:00

Knowing and accepting are two different things. 看破红尘....好难办得到。难道要看破红尘才能快乐的生活？

矛盾

2009-04-22T18:55:00.002+08:00

"人嚮往的東西是一回事，適合自己的，又是另一回事。" - 张小娴

为何那么矛盾呢？唉....

The Secret

2009-04-21T18:42:00.002+08:00

Hear, hear.... got inspired by the DVD from Ben on The Secret
.

"The Law of Attraction", "The Law of Universe".

You will attract what you think and channel your energy to....

Here are my wishes:

1) I am young and beautiful
- great legs
- great skin
- slim figure

2) Happy and healthy relationship

3) Bonus money every year

"My wish is your command"

Random

2009-04-18T00:17:00.010+08:00

Went to Kwan Yin temple to pray today.
Took some random pics on my iPhone.

And of cos my handsome devil :)

Gloomy Sunday

2009-04-04T01:13:00.006+08:00

s z o m o r ú v a s á r n a p

r e z s ő s e r e s s l y r i c s

Ősz van és peregnek a sárgult levelek
Meghalt a földön az emberi szeretet
Bánatos könnyekkel zokog az öszi szél
Szívem már új tavaszt nem vár és nem remél
Hiába sírok és hiába szenvedek
Szívtelen rosszak és kapzsik az emberek...

Meghalt a szeretet!

Vége a világnak, vége a reménynek
Városok pusztulnak, srapnelek zenélnek
Emberek vérétől piros a tarka rét
Halottak fekszenek az úton szerteszét
Még egyszer elmondom csendben az imámat:
Uram, az emberek gyarlók és hibáznak...

Vége a világnak!

LITERAL ENGLISH TRANSLATION:

It is autumn and the leaves are falling
All love has died on earth
The wind is weeping with sorrowful tears
My heart will never hope for a new spring again
My tears and my sorrows are all in vain
People are heartless, greedy and wicked...

Love has died!

The world has come to its end, hope has ceased to have a meaning
Cities are being wiped out, shrapnel is making music
Meadows are coloured red with human blood
There are dead people on the streets everywhere
I will say another quiet prayer:
People are sinners, Lord, they make mistakes...

The world has ended!

Such sad lyrics and melody.... no wonder its called the Hungarian suicide-song.....

羽云

2009-03-21T18:36:00.003+08:00

无题

2009-03-14T17:14:00.002+08:00

I was reading the profiles on my facebook. Make me miss my Navy days. Makes me realised I need to do some things. Need to find a hobby, need to go ahead with my life. Instead of just sleeping and sitting in front of the comp....

寻觅童年足迹

2009-03-02T13:30:00.003+08:00

Had this urge to capture the memories of my childhood for quite sometime already.
I think I really need to find a day to realise this 心愿 (what is this in "england"? :p) of mine.

“抓不住时间的冲击，唯能留住贩黄的回忆”

留鳥。過境鳥

2009-02-13T23:27:00.003+08:00

我們到底要做幾回過境鳥，才肯安定下來，成為某個人的留鳥？

我們又要遇過多少過境鳥，才會遇到命定的留鳥？

愛情永遠是曖昧不明的時候最甜蜜，然後是熱戀。後來的後來，就像過去的每段戀情一樣，終歸要落入尋常生活，要被時間消磨。唯一不同的只是對象而已。但是，人卻不可能為了追逐曖昧不明和熱戀時期的快樂而不斷去戀愛。

愛情一直也有它的周期，就像人生，無可避免要經歷生老病死。

有沒有不死的人？你微笑搖頭，說不出的傷感。

我們都是彼此生命中的過境鳥，我們也曾是留鳥。

留鳥

No updates

2009-02-11T21:17:00.001+08:00

haiz....normal days. Nothing exciting happened.

Miss those days when I am more 诗情画意..... :(

Talk Rock

2009-01-28T00:13:00.001+08:00

Wah!! My fav blogger is back! Finally after 1.5 years.....

Click on the title to check him out!

可不可以不要牽掛一個人？

2009-01-22T20:23:00.001+08:00

愛情，就是彼此永不止息的思念，是永遠放不下的牽掛，是心甘情願的牽絆。

你問：「可不可以不要牽掛一個人？那種滋味太苦了。」

苦的，不是牽掛，而是沒有應答的牽掛。當你牽掛他的時候，他並沒有牽掛你。他從來不像你牽掛他那樣牽掛著你。

面对恐惧与不安

2009-01-19T22:08:00.002+08:00

心好痛，好痛。明明知道答案了为何这么耿耿于怀？我好怕要面对这一天。我应该先开口吗？

恐惧。不安。畏怯

Breadou

2009-01-04T14:55:00.004+08:00

Got this cute little bun as wrist rest for Christmas.... ^^

2009

2009-01-01T14:58:00.002+08:00

Yelow, 2009!

Hmm... was pretty busy yesterday nite with all the drunkard calls and fighting and disputes. :(

I found that I am getting lazier and lazier on my NY resolution. I used to be very enthusiastic and optimistic at the end of the year as I ticked off things I've done and planing for the following year.
This year however seems like a normal day to me. Not much excitement that i felt.

I guess the main thing I wanna do in 2009 is to live life fully. Really gotta join the dance class which I have been talking about for 2 years... :p

As for the rest... we will just see how things goes.

Hope 2009 is a good year for all.

Happy New Year 2009!!

Ambulance door left wide ajar... but where's everyone?

2008-12-13T22:05:00.001+08:00

For more than 10 minutes, this ambulance door was left wide open, with nary a paramedic in sight, and the STOMPer who spotted it at a Woodlands car park wondered why this had happened.

The contributor had been helping a friend move and said he was unsure of the exact location of the block the ambulance was spotted at.

He MMSed STOMP on Dec 12 at 9:35 pm and said:

"An empty ambulance with nobody to look after?

"The engine and everything else was still on."

The STOMPer added that this happened for more than 10 minutes, and subsequently, he saw several medical personnel carrying an empty stretcher board the vehicle.

1 bo liao person asking to be f*** up, down, left, right, center......tsk tsk tsk

我要的

2008-11-09T18:16:00.003+08:00

I want

1. Someone who truly loves me
2. Someone who is willing to put in effort to maintain the relationship
3. Someone who is not riding a donkey while looking for a horse

I've lost a love once and I'm not gonna lose again. That is why I will give my best to my next relationship. I will exhaust all possibilities before calling quits if it din work out.

对于错过的爱，我只能惋惜。所以我会更珍惜下一段恋情.......来弥补上一段的遗憾。

傻女人

2008-11-09T12:25:00.005+08:00

在現在這個現實與即食的世界﹐" 夫妻本是同凌鳥﹐大難臨頭個自飛" 的例子太多了。試問我能不心寒嗎 ? 我嚮往的只是一段純真的愛情。一段沒有面具﹐沒有戒心的愛情。就是單單純純的愛一個男人。真正的愛是無私的吧 ? 是不求回報的吧 ? 如果你遇到了一個疼愛你的人但你覺得你不能跟他付出的一樣多﹐你會放棄嗎 ? 會覺得他應該遇到一個更珍惜他的人嗎 ? 還是會好好的享受被愛的幸福 ? 可能人都是泛賤的吧 .... 往往就是不會珍惜與享受被愛的幸福卻對那些視你于糞土的人死心塌地。Haaa.......人可真泛賤啊 !

我也是屬於這類型的人吧﹗我祇想能全心全意的愛一個人。能遇到一個讓我愛他多于自己的男人。可是如果讓我遇到了﹐我往往都不會是他的最愛。Haaa...... 真矛盾啊﹗曾有個友人說過 "In Love, either you love or you dun. You will be very selfish to one, yet you will be very generous with another. " 我覺得蠻有道理的。張小嫻在她的一篇文章寫到

" 你相信永遠的愛情嗎 ? 世上有兩種女人 ﹐一種聰明而孤絕﹐太了解愛情的真相﹐所以不快樂。一種天真而簡單﹐幸福的被一個男人愛着。你又屬於哪一種呢 ? "

我想我是屬於第一種。但﹐ 做個簡單的女人何嘗不是種幸福呢 ? 有時﹐太過清醒並不是件好事。如果哪天我真遇到了一個能讓我無條件愛他的人而我不是他的最愛﹐ 我寧願不要知道真相﹐就讓我相信我是他最愛的人。有時我也想做個簡單的女人...........

Something I wrote 3 years ago.... ironic isn't it? lol

But whatever it is, I will not stick with someone who dun love me, no matter how much I love him. I've come to accept only 2-way street. I value myself.

我能付出所有，但得值得。。。。是一个真正爱我的人，和我爱的人。

Humour found on net

2008-11-09T12:21:00.000+08:00

LIFE'S A TEST - AND YOU'RE GRADED ON A CURVE

At age 4, success is...not peeing in your pants.

At age 12, success is...having friends.

At age 16, success is...having a driver's license.

At age 20, success is...having sex.

At age 35, success is...having money.

At age 50, success is...having money.

At age 60, success is...having sex.

At age 70, success is...having a driver's license.

At age 75, success is...having friends.

At age 80, success is...not peeing in your pants.

想哭

2008-10-20T02:45:00.002+08:00

刚读到一位部落朋友的entry. 让我鼻子一酸...... 是为我和他。

Sad day, Glad day

2008-10-01T23:54:00.004+08:00

Went for a fall from height case. Sad.... the girl was only 6 years old. I was already getting my "ga chang" ready to scoop and go. But when I saw the girl at scene, my heart sank. It was a clear cut case of dead on arrival. What can I do? I can only tell the cruel truth to the parents and comfort them...... sad.

On the other hand, I'm so glad to have a chance to talk to Joanna, a ITE lecturer who is attached to my station for ambulance run. She is my support pillar man.... thanks to her that I felt so much better. At least I know who I can turn to when I run into r/s problem.

And Uncle and KY also lend me their arms and shoulder as punching bags....haha. Thanks to them.... I will be strong.

无奈

2008-09-30T23:18:00.002+08:00

Leo and Scorpio Love Match
When Leo Dates a Scorpio
By TAROT.COM

Scorpios prefer to play out their dramas in private, and might find the Leo's loud roar childish and hard to understand. Scorpio needs a lot of emotional space and clear boundaries, while Leo needs over-the-top displays of love and affection. Leo might not get what they need with a Scorpio, who is more reserved with their love. It's not hopeless, though. If Leo can learn not to express absolutely everything they feel, all the time, and their Scorpio can understand that Leo needs attention and make an effort to be more demonstrative, Leo and Scorpio can make it work.

Scorpio and Leo Love Match
When Scorpio Dates a Leo
By TAROT.COM

Leos are outgoing and flashy, often grabbing the limelight away from less showy signs. Scorpio wants to be respected and recognized for their accomplishments, and if Leo steals attention away from Scorpio, they'll find it unbearable. Scorpio and Leo are both fixed signs, which means they can both be stubborn when Scorpio wants to be - and they often do. This isn't an impossible relationship, but it will require a lot of compromise and acceptance on both sides. If Scorpio and Leo can pull it off, they'll both be rewarded with a loving, loyal partner who is in it for the long haul.

:(

Are You the One For Me?

2008-09-30T00:54:00.007+08:00

Yo, reading this book by the same author Barbara De Angelis (Click on the Title for the link) Wah...like this book man. Basically guiding you or rather provide you the pointers to be in a healthy relationship, not a toxic one. To find the Right Partner for you... not just any partner.

It also discuss why we choose the people we love, avoiding who's wrong, marrying for the wrong reasons and even a compatibility formula! I will just list down 1 interesting part that most of us will be familiar with.

To be in a fulfilling relationship depends not only on LOVE. Okay, not too romantic if you think about it but not matter how much we deny, deep down we all know it requires much more than just love to maintain a relationship.

We all got our ideas of love and romance through novels, movies, songs etc etc. Sigh... how I wish my love life will be as romantic as in the movie or as sweet as in a song. However, Barbara believes that we do not make intelligent choices on love because we believe in the Deadly Myths about Love.

MYTH #1
TRUE LOVE CONQUERS ALL

MYTH #2
WHEN IT IS REALLY TRUE LOVE, YOU WILL KNOW THE MOMENT YOU MEET THE OTHER PERSON

MYTH #3
THERE IS ONLY 1 TRUE LOVE IN THE WORLD THAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU

MYTH #4
THE PERFECT PARTNER WILL FULFILL YOU COMPLETELY IN EVERY WAY

MYTH#5
WHEN YOU EXPERIENCE POWERFUL SEXUAL CHEMISTRY WITH SOMEONE, IT MUST BE LOVE

Alright, I know you will not agree to some of the myths as it is pretty clear that there is no logic... for example #5. I'm sure most of us will not believe it. But I'm also pretty sure most of us hold and believe some from #1 to #4. Some people might argue that they are not myths, but the truth about love. Well, your life is yours and it is up to you how you want to live it. Nobody can change you if you do not want to change.

For myself, I think I fall for #1, 2 and 3. Haiz.... it is really scary to think that the beliefs you hold true to now is not the truth. I mean it is soooo romantic to believe what was written above, don't you agree? But I guess we have to come back to reality. And it is a bit scary...to tell the truth.

I decided to do the exercises in the book because I am committed to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

Of cos the main reason is "Because I'm worth it." *wink*

The Real Rules

2008-09-26T20:57:00.008+08:00

Went to the library to get a few books so that I can will away my time for standby for the F1. I will be at UOB building, so I won't have a chance to see the action but I least I get to hear the tires screeching.... :p

Just finished this book by Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D "The Real Rules"(Click on the main title for a link) talking about dating rules to find the right man for you. Interesting read. It dispute some old rules of dating from our mother's time like acting hard to catch, have to maintain mysterious to capture a man's heart etc etc. In place, she established a new set of rules that most women now would agree more on. At least I do.

I especially like the Chapter on "4 stages of commitments in a relationship". That basically sums up what I was trying to do and boy am I glad that someone thinks the same way too.

Sometimes when a woman wants a commitment from a man, it not necessary mean marriage.

Commitment level #1 : Commitment to be sexually and emotionally monogamous
Time line: 0 - 3 mths

Basically means exclusive dating. Meaning you dun sleep around and have other intimate relationship with another person

Commitment level #2 : Commitment to work towards a partnership
Time line: 3 - 6 mths

This stage is called A Developing Relationship
When you feel:

Your relationship is getting better and better
You are sharing most aspects of your time and life together
You are starting to think as a "we"

then you are ready for a Level 2 commitment.

Agreements you and your partner should make includes:

You and your partner agree that your relationship is special and worth nurturing
You and your partner agree that your relationship has the potential to be a lasting partnership
You and your partner agree to work together through honestly communicating feelings, looking at your own blocks to intimacy, and learning to understand one and other in order to create that potential lasting partnership

Commitment level #3 : Commitment to spend your future together
Time line: 6 mths to however long you need

The time spend on this level is up to individual and couple. On the age and their relationship experience. Those younger need a longer time while those in their 30s and with relative experience and know what they want may spend a shorter time at this level. This is where a couple builds their foundation.

You are ready for a Level 3 commitment when

You have created a strong and healthy partnership that is functioning well most of the time
You feel sure that you want to spend your future together, if not for the rest of your life
You have no desire to investigate anyone else as a possible partner
You feel totally loved and appreciated by your partner almost all the time

Agreements you should make with your partner at this level

You and your partner agree that you want to spend your future together
You and your partner agree to formalise your commitment by either:
- becoming engaged to be married
- planning on becoming engaged as soon as you can
- deciding to live together
You and your partner agree to continue working on yourselves and the relationship in order to eliminate any remaining doubts or obstacles to a successful lifetime commitment

Commitment level #4 : Commitment to spend the rest of your lives together

You are ready for a Level 4 commitment i.e Marriage
When:

You've had a Level 3 commitment for some time (engaged, living together etc) and have worked through whatever circumstantial obstacles or emotional issues were in your way.
You have total trust and faith in your relationship and its ability to continue to grow as well as survive whatever adversity it faces
You feel excited about exploring deeper levels of love, intimacy, and surrender with your partner
You are sure that you and your partner have enough compatibility to be "right" for each other

There! You have it, when you are ready for Level 4 commitment, Congrats, you are ready for a marriage. Agreements will be your marriage vows... :)

If your partner does not agree to any of these or that when you are ready for a higher level of commitment but not him/her, then maybe it is time to move on.

You may think it is not at all romantic to have to go thru all these steps and thots. Shouldn't marriage or THE ONE come naturally? Like whistles and bells and you know instantly when you meet the right one? I would love that too.... but I think you have to love with both your heart and head. That will minimise a lot of heartaches later.

Sure glad that is my COA too...^^
Maybe I can write a book too......hmmmm

Evolution of my couple behaviour

2008-09-22T22:46:00.006+08:00

Yo, another entry on myself... narcissistic hor? :p

Well, I have been thinking these few days on how much I have changed in terms of my behavior in a relationship. Started since 16...haha. I'm sure there are much changes.

I was not really into holding hands or holding waist with my first love. I was independent and boyish. Need no pampering. He complaint I was not feminine enough. That I was okay with or without love or partner. Steadfast on what I expect from a boyfriend and his behavior. I was the go-getter and winner. Never a whimper.

But as I grow older and had more relationships, I started to learn about how to behave and expect from my various partners. I learn that I should be more feminine. I learn to be romantic and create memories on special events. I learn to enjoy pampering from my boyfriends. I learn that communication is VERY VERY important in a relationship. Must always communicate your tots and feelings about your partners to them. How they make you feel, how they are upsetting you. Showing appreciation by a simple "thank you" for the time and effort they spent on you. Even for just loving me. Everyone likes to be appreciated and acknowledged. That you should show your love not only by words, but by physical contact too. A simple kiss on the cheek, a simple hug at the end of the day. I've evolved to be more mushy, more girly, know how to 撒娇 more with each relationship. Guess my bfs have all spoilt me... :p

However,some common comments they have of me was that I have the mentality of a guy. I know what I want in a relationship, never draggy, never needy. I love myself more than any of them. That I am very relax on their reins and they have all the freedom to do their things and meet their friends.

Then I guess age and things I saw changed me. I thought I should not be such a superwoman and be a "小女人" afterall. That I should place relationship as the top priority. Seems it doesn't work that way anyway. Some people find that too "sticky" or "needy". Isn't it ironic that things dun work out the way when I change my style? Maybe I should go back to how I behave in the begining.

Or maybe the challenge is for me to know when to be superwoman and when to be "小女人". But really, I can't see myself revolving just around a guy. I still can't be a "小女人". I cannot take it down that I have to be the one changing and making the relationship work. I dun think this is the way a relationship should be.

But I can't help wanting to take it up as a challenge? Hmmm..... 人很泛贱 hor?

Have to be Happy

2008-09-12T16:22:00.002+08:00

Oh no! I was reading my prev post and I realised how sad my blog sounds now! This is very bad!

Gotta blog more on happy happenings.... say CHEESE! ^^

I think

2008-09-12T16:14:00.003+08:00

I think when you are no longer interested in what is happening in your partner's life. The love has already died.

Tired Night

2008-09-04T21:10:00.002+08:00

Wah... had a very tired night last night. 5 calls and the last one lasted for 3 hrs!! Haiz.
Now having gastric and feeling a bit sick. Hopefully I am okay by tml... still another 3 more day duties.. :(

Haiz, went for a threaten to commit suicide and killing her children case yesterday. She just gave birth, husband wanted to divorce her and marry anther woman. So she locked herself in her room holding a knife threaten to kill the child. Wah, used a lot of resources man. Negotiation and counseling took 3 hrs before she released her 2 yr old son and new born. Must be the stress from post natal and the fact that the husband had an affair that make her snap.

Another case of hanging attended by another colleague of mine was a 55 yr old woman who hung herself after discovering her husband had an affair too. Haiz.... soooooo sad rite? Makes one thinks of where is the promise that couples made when they are solomanised. Are people so forgetful? You know, I dun know if I will ever react that way if it was me in the situation. Maybe I'm all sane and resonable now to know that all these are silly but when you are in depression, you never know when you will just snap and do funni thing. Sigh..... tired, dun want to think so much liao.

Go play with my new laptop...haha... chaozzz

See open!

2008-09-02T18:31:00.002+08:00

Hmm... so proud of myself these days. I've came to accept and see open the situation le.
I'm still myself and of cos my principles stays the same. Ha.. so I did not change afterall.
Just that I am now more aware of my different feelings and reactions. And I can then better control them that way.

Like what was agreed at first, we dun know how it will end.
So I should be at peace with what I am doing and how it will eventually end.

Cheers to me! ^^

命中注定

2008-08-27T23:08:00.002+08:00

Just watched a documentary on Channel U. Its a series about lives of 2 ppl who were born on the same day, same month, same year. How can you beat the odds? :)

Today story is about a young couple. Wow, the story machiam really from a novel lor..haha.

Gary and Millie were born on the same day, same month, same year. Both had difficult childhood. Gary is genetically monochromatic. His world consist of only black and white. He was inferior of his handicap and was always compared against his brother who is the better one. He became a gangster cos they are the only ones who make him feel loved and unique.

Millie was the middle child and always felt neglected by her parents. She is very quiet and keep things to herself. Never would the 2 of them thought they will find their soul mate in each other.

As fate would have it, they both went to the same Secondary school, same class in Sec 3, same CCA and participated in NDP. Millie never had a good impression of Gary at first. He was the typical Ah Beng type. But as they spend almost everyday together and got to know each other more, a precious friendship developed. It was as if they are fated to be together and a confidant to each other. It was so sweet when they re-enact the part when they confess to each other their feelings. Gary really loved Millie.

I love the way when Gary said Millie is cute, whether in character or appearance and just seeing her smile makes his day. Whenever he is upset, he will definitely melt under Millie's smile. Soooo sweet hor? Then there was once they had a very heated quarrel and Gary decided to take a walk. He sensed Millie was nearby and true enough, they meet right in the middle of the street and collapased into each other's arms.... drama hor? LOL. And maybe they have the same birthdate and thus there is telepathy between them. They almost can find each other....Awww...

Some lucky ones will find their soul mate, some will never be found. Is it heaven-made or man-made? Haha, if heaven never make, then will have to depend on us lor... :p

But to have the chance to walk side by side is already something precious.

“因为有情，所以再苦都愿意。”

“能在人生的道路相遇与通行已经是一种缘分，好好的珍惜这份缘才不枉此生”

Love

2008-08-27T16:13:00.001+08:00

Love came ....before you know it you are already flat on your face.
That's always the way of world isn't it?

Evolution of Love

2008-08-21T16:16:00.006+08:00

Once upon a time when we were still young, we had this innocent and utopia idea of living happily ever after with our love ones. Girls will meet their knights in shinning armour and boys will meet their gentle and beautiful princesses.

Then comes the time when we are older and have more definite idea of love. It is no longer staying in a castle, being bullied by ugly step sisters or slaying dragons. It is about heartaches, heart racing, tears, laughter. It is about being with the person you love 24/7, about wanting to make the person happy, about waiting beside the phone for under the block for hours, about wanting to provide for the person and being reliable for your love one to lean on you.

Then we lean about the damages love can inflict the hard way. Then we start to build a fortress around us. Then we start to close up. Then we start to demand more instead of giving. In order not be hurt we stop loving. I read this article in this month CLEO magazine. One of the interviewee mentioned the negative examples of those around her.. friends and family ended up in separation or divorce caused her to lose faith in marriages. If the r/s is going to end badly, why go into one in the beginning?

Men and women are getting more selfish and self-centered. They will place themselves first before their partners. We are talking about the majority here. Infidelity is not uncommon among young couples. Is it because we are greedier? We sought to live life to the fullest? Not to have any regrets? To enjoy life to the fullest? To experience love again?

Aye, me too lar. Self-centered. Expect people to love me as much as I love them. Is expectation tolerable in a relationship? Should we still maintain the notion of "Love is giving without expecting anything in return"? Is it still feasible in our current context? Shouldn't a relationship be of equal standing? Giving and claiming as much? Is this our definition and expectation of love now? That we will turn our heads away if it doesn't work out the way we want?

Some of us will want things to fall into place before we embark on another project in life. For example, career before marriage. Actually it is the most logical approach. We have all outgrown the phrase and know that we cannot live on love alone. Assuring the dough is the way to go cos if without it you can forget about a happy marriage or relationship. In the end we love our career more than our partners. Some people derived their self-worth from their jobs too. They are in control only at their playground and no where else. So is that really such a puzzle that we will rather love our computers rather than another person?

Then after working our ass off, we will be too tired to care about another person. No problem at all that we need a little personal space to unwind and take care of ourselves first but sometimes we just take things for granted and forget to thank and appreciate those who love us. So we will want someone who comes when we need them and leave us alone when we want some "me" time, do not complain when we dun have time to spend with them, yet show us the care and concern when we need them. Hmm.... sounds too good to be true? It may just happen in the near future. You can customise your virtual partner in terms of looks, personality and what you want them to do in different situations. Well, if I have the money, maybe I will research more into this. Think this will be a multi billion venture...hahaha.

So how do you define love? And how are you doing to deal with it when it finds you? Good luck! *wink*

By GEORGE CARLIN

2008-08-21T15:57:00.001+08:00

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom.

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

还我一片天

2008-08-21T01:12:00.003+08:00

那天心血来潮想到 Marina South 去放风筝。拿了前一天刚买的风筝，充满期待的出门去了。路途还真够耗时,搭了地铁到 Marina Bay Station，平时的出口封住了，我沿着另一个出口到了陆面。该转左还是右呢？我决定了往右，就一直走，一直走，身边好多的建筑工程啊，原来是 IR 要来了...哈哈！Eh? 为什么好像到了快速公路还不见车站？于是我就问问身边的外国劳工...原来车站在另一边！唉，没办法只好走回头路，这一下子就耗了15分种。当我赶到车站时，巴士刚开走，我只好坐在那儿乖乖的等个45分钟。我想没关系，只要我能放得了风筝就可以了，哪怕我要到的那片草地没空位，我还能到公园。

巴士终于来了，我兴奋的上了车，可是迎接我的却是重重的铲泥车，高高的铁架...我那绿油油的草地呢？那能让我牵着风筝自由奔跑到蓝天白云怀抱里的草地呢？我好失望，好失望啊！那些钢铁水泥就象是一只只妖怪咀嚼了我的天空。我也不下车了，任由巴士把我送回原点。是不是不断的向昨天借一点空间，就是更好的对待明天？

还我一片天，我只要一个空间让我的风筝飞向蓝天....

14th Aug

2008-08-14T12:52:00.003+08:00

My birthday! Eh....wiser by 1 year liao. Time files man.

Went for dinner and KTV with Ricky, Tam and gang. Too tired for part II cos of my last 3 days stint as volunteer instructor teaching First Aid in Red Cross. But...really long time never drink till drop liao..haha.

Was very surprised to be given a birthday cake by them yesterday after midnight. Gam Dong lor... tears almost flow down liao. *sob sob* I was thinking to myself if I ever will get to eat a cake this year....:p

Very happy to receive birthday greetings from friends...and my dad. He never fails to send me a sms on my birthday. :) At least this is heart warming.

Year by year pass by. Nothing much to look forward to. Live day as it is bah. Happy can liao....
Happy Birthday to me! V^^

P.S. Bought a kite today. Tml go fly kite....hehe

不值得

2008-08-11T00:58:00.000+08:00

歌手：梦飞船

除了想你除了爱你
hu ~我什么什么都愿意
翻开日记整理心情
hu ~我真的真的想放弃

你始终没有爱过
你在敷衍我
一次一次忽略我的感受
我真的感到力不从心
无力继续

这感情不值得我犹豫
不值得我考虑
不值得我爱过你
这种回忆不值得我提起
不值得想起
不值得哭泣
这段感情早就应该放弃
早就不该让我浪费时间找奇迹
这样的你不值得我恨你
不值得我为你而坏了心情
我决定不为你而毁了心
放弃爱你

除了想你除了爱你
hu ~我什么什么都愿意
翻开日记打开心情
hu ~我真的真的想放弃

你始终没有爱过
你在敷衍我
一次一次忽略我的感受
我真的感到力不从心
无力继续

这感情不值得我犹豫
不值得我考虑
不值得我爱过你
这种回忆不值得我提起
不值得想起
不值得哭泣
这段感情早就应该放弃
早就不该让我浪费时间找奇迹
这样的你不值得我恨你
不值得我为你而坏了心情

我决定不为你而毁了心
不为你而放弃爱情
不为你而毁了心

我决定不为你而毁了心
放弃爱你

他不爱我

2008-08-11T00:55:00.000+08:00

歌手：莫文尉

他不爱我牵手的时候太冷清
拥抱的时候不够靠近
oh他不爱我说话的时候不认真
沉默的时候又太用心
我知道他不爱我
他的眼神说出他的心
我看透了他的心
还有别人逗留的背影
他的回忆清除的不够乾净
我看到了他的心
演的全是他和她的电影
他不爱我尽管如此
他还是赢走了我的心

我知道他不爱我
他的眼神说出他的心
我看透了他的心
还有别人逗留的背影
他的回忆清除的不够乾净
我看到了他的心
演的全是他和她的电影
他不爱我尽管如此
他还是赢走了我的心

我看透了他的心
还有别人逗留的背影
他的回忆清除的不够乾净
我看到了他的心
演的全是他和她的电影
他不爱我尽管如此
他还是赢走了我的心

2008-05-29T12:45:00.001+08:00

Wahaha...this is the first time I see so many ambulances side by side. Taken at CGH...still got 2 more behind (lens not wide enough) heh. Look very manjestic hor? :p

Soulmates

2008-05-25T12:52:00.000+08:00

My definition of a soul mate is

- Your best friend
- whom you can count to give you support
- whom you can relied on
- whom you can be totally yourself with
- whom will listen to you when you talk
- whom will make you happy
- whom you can share your joys/dreams/fears/sadness with
- whom love you as you are
- whom you will want to make him/her happy
- whom you will want to sacrificed for
- whom can fulfilled you and you him/her
- whom you can grow together
- whom may make you sad/frustrated but you still love him/her and want to be together
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A prev entry

9 Ways of Marrying The Wrong Person - by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.

3. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a woman needs most. Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it".

Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them. The unique need of a woman is to be loved -- to feel that she is the most important person in her husband's life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention. This is most apparent in Judaism's approach to sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the sexual needs of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman's terms. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it comes to this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are experience-oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen.
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Have you found yours?

Damn Cat Killers

2008-05-24T12:57:00.000+08:00

What makes them more superior to take others life? >:(

STOMP

I hope the killer will get his just deserts!

Tributes to the deceased of the Earthquake

2008-05-19T16:09:00.000+08:00

狙击手

狙击手漠视身边的哀吼

毫无筛选一击任凭被带走

突如其来宿命来不及追究
谁能逃避无情的眼眸

劫后余生仍考验力量的去留

生命的迹象是振奋人心的镜头
努力活着是厄运敌不过的对手

http://moodles.wordpress.com/2008/05/19/狙击手/

Tributes to the deceased of the Earthquake I

2008-05-19T16:05:00.000+08:00

孩子，快抓紧妈妈的手- 三春晖
(献给在四川大地震中遇难的孩子们)

孩子
快抓紧妈妈的手
去天堂的路
太黑了
妈妈怕你
碰了头
快
抓紧妈妈的手
让妈妈陪你走

妈妈
怕
天堂的路
太黑
我看不见你的手
自从
倒塌的墙
把阳光夺走
我再也看不见
你柔情的眸

孩子
你走吧
前面的路
再也没有忧愁
没有读不完的课本
交不完的答卷
你要记住
我和爸爸的模样
来生还要一起走

妈妈
别担忧
天堂的路有些挤
有很多同学朋友
我们说
不哭
哪一个人的妈妈
都是我们的妈妈
哪一个孩子
都是妈妈的孩子
没有我的日子
你把爱给活着的孩子吧

妈妈
你别哭
泪光照亮不了
我们的路
让我们自己
慢慢的走
妈妈
我会记住
你和爸爸的模样
记住我们的约定——来生还要一起走

http://bbs.cnr.cn/thread-300309-1-1.html

SMS

2008-05-19T16:02:00.000+08:00

Got this SMS from a friend..... hmm... what say you?

1月25日, 雪灾＝天灾
3月14日，藏独＝人祸
5月12日，地震＝地灾

1+2+5=08
3+1+4=08
5+1+2=08

08年08月08日奥运会

地震发生那天正好是距离奥运会88天，都是巧合？

真是佩服李白，在唐朝就知道今年奥运，地震了：

北暮沧山兰舟四
京无落霞缀清川
奥年落叶缘分地
运水微漾人却震

前四个子－－北京奥运
后四个子－－四川地震

？？

2008-05-16T16:12:00.000+08:00

Eh... guess its the time again. The feeling sad period? :/

Met Eleena, my batch ger from WOCC today at Kester's father's wake. So happens that Kester's sis is her understudy. It makes me think back.....how life would be if I'm still in the force.

There are 3 major decisions that I've made so far.... and I'm starting to regret 2 of them. Does that mean I did bad decisions? I dun know. Damn sian lor.

And guess what? It was KY that pronounced Kester's father DOA. Hmm... I'm sure it feels funni when you have to pronounced someone you know to be dead. Well, part and parcel of our job bah.

Cyclones, earthquakes.... well, maybe the world is really coming to an end. Might as well.... look at the human species now.

失物

2008-05-16T16:11:00.000+08:00

很多人遗失，
很多人丢弃，
很少人捡起 - 勇气这东西。

-1月2003年

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Poor Joven

2008-05-12T16:17:00.000+08:00

Poor Joven broke his collarbone! But being his naughty and active self, he was up and smiling in no time. Check out the following... *rolleyes*

TTSH

2008-05-12T16:13:00.000+08:00

这张照片是我在送了个紧急病人后拍的。这是 TTSH 的 resus area. 我也不知为什么，只想把这夜深人静的一幕拍下。

夕阳

2008-05-12T00:08:00.000+08:00

“夕阳无限好，只惜近黄昏"

想寻找最好的位置，看最艳丽的晚霞，可惜往往待我们找到好位置时，夕阳的魅力已过。曾几何时，我们追求最好的而蹉跎了光辉岁月。还好，最终还是让我找到了最好的位置，目睹了夕阳最后刹那的含羞。虽然短暂，可还是值得的。这是不是一个预兆？哈哈！

A sad case

2008-04-26T16:18:00.000+08:00

Went for an RTA case during my last duty. That was my first trauma arrest case....and a child somemore. Sad. So were my whole crew. First time for all of us. At least there is something for the sec com to reminisce when he goes back from his attachment.

Sad case. But an experience for all of us.... rest in peace boy.....

商机

2008-04-12T16:25:00.000+08:00

Wah.... was trying to nap after my night shift but cannot sleep. My whole mind is just thinking of ways to start a biz! I've a few ideas but still need to do some research to see if it is viable. Really.... since I spend so much time in front of the comp and I have 2 off days. I really think I should use these time to make more money. To create multiple stream of income.... Best if it is passive income.

I should first read up more on investment. I actually am pretty scared cos I'm never good at math and I hate numbers. But maybe I shall take this up as a personal challenge to improve myself.

Next is to do what I really like. Selling handicraft stuff bah. I like to sew and knit and do all sorts of handicraft. Then maybe I will teach dancing. If all these make money, then maybe I can quit my present job.... :p Haha.

Need to inspire myself more like watching "理财有方". Brought back all those ambitions and ways to handle your personal finance. I mean I still do it now.... but not consciously. Target.... to build my wealth...haha.

9 ways of marrying the wrong person

2008-04-02T16:27:00.000+08:00

A prev entry......

by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.

1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married. The classic mistake: Never marry potential. The golden rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect people to change after they're married... for the worst!" So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.

2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character. Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in lust." Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's character? Here are four character traits to definitely check for:

Humility: Does this person believe that "doing the right thing" is more important than personal comfort? Do I want to be more like this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn't have to be nice to? Does s/he do volunteer work? Give charity?

Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he's going to do?

Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life? Is s/he emotionally stable? Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person? Do I want to have a child with this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

3. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a woman needs most. Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it".

Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them. The unique need of a woman is to be loved -- to feel that she is the most important person in her husband's life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention. This is most apparent in Judaism's approach to sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the sexual needs of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman's terms. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it comes to this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are experience-oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen.

4. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goals and priorities. There are three basic ways we connect with another person:

-chemistry and compatibility
-share common interests
-share common life goal

Make sure you share the deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart. To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you're "living for," while you're single -- and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion as you. This is the true definition of a "soul mate." A soul mate is a goal mate -- two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life's purpose and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.

5. You pick the wrong person because you do not have a deeper emotional connection with this person. To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: "Do I respect and admire this person?" This does not mean, "Am I impressed by this person?" We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc. Also ask: "Do I trust this person?" This also means, "Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?

6. You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don't feel emotionally safe. Ask yourself the following questions: Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully express myself with this person? Does this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way! Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you're afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there's a problem with the relationship. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don't feel the other person is trying to control you. Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There's a big difference between controlling" and "making suggestions." A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.

7. You pick the wrong person because you don't put everything on the table. Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way. To evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise. You need to know now, before making a commitment: Can you resolve your differences and find compromises that work for both of you? The world is all about compromises. Never be afraid to let the person know what bothers you. This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with! this person. If you can't be vulnerable, then you can't be intimate. The two go hand in hand.

8. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems and unhappiness. If you are unhappy and single, you'll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You'll feel better, and your future spouse will thank you.

9. You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a triangle. To be "triangulated" means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or something else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who hasn't separated from his or her parents is the classic example of triangulation. People can also be triangulated with things as well, such as work, drugs, Internet, hobbies, sports or money. Be careful that you and your partner are free of triangles. The person caught in the triangle cannot be fully emotionally available to you. You will not be their number one priority. And that's no basis for a marriage.

风筝

2008-03-02T17:28:00.000+08:00

飞吧
搂着无数的梦想，渐渐的依向蓝天

飞吧
穿着彩色的衣裳，展现尔诺多姿的体态

飞吧
拖着淡淡的忧愁，抛至与九霄云外

飞吧
带我远离这忧伤的城市

飞吧！飞吧！

The time traveller's wife

2008-02-24T17:29:00.001+08:00

by Audrey Niffenegger
This clever and inventive tale works on three levels: as an intriguing science fiction concept, a realistic character study and a touching love story. Henry De Tamble is a Chicago librarian with "Chrono Displacement" disorder; at random times, he suddenly disappears without warning and finds himself in the past or future, usually at a time or place of importance in his life. This leads to some wonderful paradoxes.

From his point of view, he first met his wife, Clare, when he was 28 and she was 20. She ran up to him exclaiming that she'd known him all her life. He, however, had never seen her before. But when he reaches his 40s, already married to Clare, he suddenly finds himself time travelling to Clare's childhood and meeting her as a 6-year-old. The book alternates between Henry and Clare's points of view, and so does the narration. Reed ably expresses the longing of the one always left behind, the frustrations of their unusual lifestyle, and above all, her overriding love for Henry. Likewise, Burns evokes the fear of a man who never knows where or when he'll turn up, and his gratitude at having Clare, whose love is his anchor.

The expressive, evocative performances of both actors convey the protagonists' intense relationship, their personal quirks and their reminiscences, making this a fascinating audio.

Interesting read..... :)

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