Wahaha...this is the first time I see so many ambulances side by side. Taken at CGH...still got 2 more behind (lens not wide enough) heh. Look very manjestic hor? :p

Soulmates

My definition of a soul mate is

- Your best friend
- whom you can count to give you support
- whom you can relied on
- whom you can be totally yourself with
- whom will listen to you when you talk
- whom will make you happy
- whom you can share your joys/dreams/fears/sadness with
- whom love you as you are
- whom you will want to make him/her happy
- whom you will want to sacrificed for
- whom can fulfilled you and you him/her
- whom you can grow together
- whom may make you sad/frustrated but you still love him/her and want to be together
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A prev entry

9 Ways of Marrying The Wrong Person - by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.

3. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a woman needs most. Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it".

Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them. The unique need of a woman is to be loved -- to feel that she is the most important person in her husband's life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention. This is most apparent in Judaism's approach to sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the sexual needs of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman's terms. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it comes to this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are experience-oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen.
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Have you found yours?

Damn Cat Killers

What makes them more superior to take others life? >:(





STOMP

I hope the killer will get his just deserts!

Tributes to the deceased of the Earthquake

狙击手

狙击手漠视身边的哀吼

毫无筛选 一击任凭被带走

突如其来 宿命来不及追究
谁能逃避无情的眼眸

劫后余生仍考验力量的去留

生命的迹象是振奋人心的镜头
努力活着是厄运敌不过的对手




http://moodles.wordpress.com/2008/05/19/狙击手/

Tributes to the deceased of the Earthquake I

孩子，快抓紧妈妈的手- 三春晖
(献给在四川大地震中遇难的孩子们)

孩子
快抓紧妈妈的手
去天堂的路
太黑了
妈妈怕你
碰了头
快
抓紧妈妈的手
让妈妈陪你走

妈妈
怕
天堂的路
太黑
我看不见你的手
自从
倒塌的墙
把阳光夺走
我再也看不见
你柔情的眸

孩子
你走吧
前面的路
再也没有忧愁
没有读不完的课本
交不完的答卷
你要记住
我和爸爸的模样
来生还要一起走

妈妈
别担忧
天堂的路有些挤
有很多同学朋友
我们说
不哭
哪一个人的妈妈
都是我们的妈妈
哪一个孩子
都是妈妈的孩子
没有我的日子
你把爱给活着的孩子吧

妈妈
你别哭
泪光照亮不了
我们的路
让我们自己
慢慢的走
妈妈
我会记住
你和爸爸的模样
记住我们的约定——来生还要一起走

http://bbs.cnr.cn/thread-300309-1-1.html

SMS

Got this SMS from a friend..... hmm... what say you?

1月25日, 雪灾＝天灾
3月14日，藏独＝人祸
5月12日，地震＝地灾

1+2+5=08
3+1+4=08
5+1+2=08

08年08月08日 奥运会

地震发生那天正好是距离奥运会88天，都是巧合？

真是佩服李白，在唐朝就知道今年奥运，地震了：

北暮沧山兰舟四
京无落霞缀清川
奥年落叶缘分地
运水微漾人却震

前四个子－－北京奥运
后四个子－－四川地震

？？

Eh... guess its the time again. The feeling sad period? :/

Met Eleena, my batch ger from WOCC today at Kester's father's wake. So happens that Kester's sis is her understudy. It makes me think back.....how life would be if I'm still in the force.

There are 3 major decisions that I've made so far.... and I'm starting to regret 2 of them. Does that mean I did bad decisions? I dun know. Damn sian lor.

And guess what? It was KY that pronounced Kester's father DOA. Hmm... I'm sure it feels funni when you have to pronounced someone you know to be dead. Well, part and parcel of our job bah.

Cyclones, earthquakes.... well, maybe the world is really coming to an end. Might as well.... look at the human species now.

失物

很多人遗失，
很多人丢弃，
很少人捡起 - 勇气这东西。

-1月2003年




moodles 图画库

Poor Joven

Poor Joven broke his collarbone! But being his naughty and active self, he was up and smiling in no time. Check out the following... *rolleyes*

TTSH

这张照片是我在送了个紧急病人后拍的。这是 TTSH 的 resus area. 我也不知为什么，只想把这夜深人静的一幕拍下。

夕阳

“夕阳无限好，只惜近黄昏"

想寻找最好的位置，看最艳丽的晚霞，可惜往往待我们找到好位置时，夕阳的魅力已过。曾几何时，我们追求最好的而蹉跎了光辉岁月。还好，最终还是让我找到了最好的位置，目睹了夕阳最后刹那的含羞。虽然短暂，可还是值得的。这是不是一个预兆？哈哈！

A sad case

Went for an RTA case during my last duty. That was my first trauma arrest case....and a child somemore. Sad. So were my whole crew. First time for all of us. At least there is something for the sec com to reminisce when he goes back from his attachment.

Sad case. But an experience for all of us.... rest in peace boy.....

商机

Wah.... was trying to nap after my night shift but cannot sleep. My whole mind is just thinking of ways to start a biz! I've a few ideas but still need to do some research to see if it is viable. Really.... since I spend so much time in front of the comp and I have 2 off days. I really think I should use these time to make more money. To create multiple stream of income.... Best if it is passive income.

I should first read up more on investment. I actually am pretty scared cos I'm never good at math and I hate numbers. But maybe I shall take this up as a personal challenge to improve myself.

Next is to do what I really like. Selling handicraft stuff bah. I like to sew and knit and do all sorts of handicraft. Then maybe I will teach dancing. If all these make money, then maybe I can quit my present job.... :p Haha.

Need to inspire myself more like watching "理财有方". Brought back all those ambitions and ways to handle your personal finance. I mean I still do it now.... but not consciously. Target.... to build my wealth...haha.

9 ways of marrying the wrong person

A prev entry......

by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.

1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married. The classic mistake: Never marry potential. The golden rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect people to change after they're married... for the worst!" So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.

2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character. Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in lust." Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's character? Here are four character traits to definitely check for:

Humility: Does this person believe that "doing the right thing" is more important than personal comfort? Do I want to be more like this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn't have to be nice to? Does s/he do volunteer work? Give charity?

Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he's going to do?

Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life? Is s/he emotionally stable? Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person? Do I want to have a child with this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

3. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a woman needs most. Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it".

Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them. The unique need of a woman is to be loved -- to feel that she is the most important person in her husband's life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention. This is most apparent in Judaism's approach to sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the sexual needs of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman's terms. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it comes to this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are experience-oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen.



4. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goals and priorities. There are three basic ways we connect with another person:

-chemistry and compatibility
-share common interests
-share common life goal

Make sure you share the deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart. To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you're "living for," while you're single -- and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion as you. This is the true definition of a "soul mate." A soul mate is a goal mate -- two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life's purpose and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.

5. You pick the wrong person because you do not have a deeper emotional connection with this person. To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: "Do I respect and admire this person?" This does not mean, "Am I impressed by this person?" We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc. Also ask: "Do I trust this person?" This also means, "Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?

6. You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don't feel emotionally safe. Ask yourself the following questions: Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully express myself with this person? Does this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way! Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you're afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there's a problem with the relationship. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don't feel the other person is trying to control you. Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There's a big difference between controlling" and "making suggestions." A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.

7. You pick the wrong person because you don't put everything on the table. Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way. To evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise. You need to know now, before making a commitment: Can you resolve your differences and find compromises that work for both of you? The world is all about compromises. Never be afraid to let the person know what bothers you. This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with! this person. If you can't be vulnerable, then you can't be intimate. The two go hand in hand.

8. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems and unhappiness. If you are unhappy and single, you'll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You'll feel better, and your future spouse will thank you.

9. You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a triangle. To be "triangulated" means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or something else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who hasn't separated from his or her parents is the classic example of triangulation. People can also be triangulated with things as well, such as work, drugs, Internet, hobbies, sports or money. Be careful that you and your partner are free of triangles. The person caught in the triangle cannot be fully emotionally available to you. You will not be their number one priority. And that's no basis for a marriage.

风筝

飞吧
搂着无数的梦想，渐渐的依向蓝天

飞吧
穿着彩色的衣裳，展现尔诺多姿的体态

飞吧
拖着淡淡的忧愁，抛至与九霄云外

飞吧
带我远离这忧伤的城市

飞吧！飞吧！

The time traveller's wife

by Audrey Niffenegger
This clever and inventive tale works on three levels: as an intriguing science fiction concept, a realistic character study and a touching love story. Henry De Tamble is a Chicago librarian with "Chrono Displacement" disorder; at random times, he suddenly disappears without warning and finds himself in the past or future, usually at a time or place of importance in his life. This leads to some wonderful paradoxes.

From his point of view, he first met his wife, Clare, when he was 28 and she was 20. She ran up to him exclaiming that she'd known him all her life. He, however, had never seen her before. But when he reaches his 40s, already married to Clare, he suddenly finds himself time travelling to Clare's childhood and meeting her as a 6-year-old. The book alternates between Henry and Clare's points of view, and so does the narration. Reed ably expresses the longing of the one always left behind, the frustrations of their unusual lifestyle, and above all, her overriding love for Henry. Likewise, Burns evokes the fear of a man who never knows where or when he'll turn up, and his gratitude at having Clare, whose love is his anchor.

The expressive, evocative performances of both actors convey the protagonists' intense relationship, their personal quirks and their reminiscences, making this a fascinating audio.

Interesting read..... :)

Intimacy

Read this article in the latest issue of "Her World" on the moment after sex. Seems like we got our answer on our complain abt men ignoring the women and just turn over to sleep after sex. Its a symptom called "Post-orgasmic anxiety". Developing anxiety after orgasm and feel like running awayfrom their partners. Some points on this phenomenon.


1. Men also have the feeling that they are the ones doing all the work, and that they are responsible for the pleasure of the love making session and tt breds resentment. They may also develop negative emotions such as guilt, lonliness and frustration and do not know how to handle them.

2. Even if their female partners are active and enthusiastic, they may also have this notion that "Damnit! The more she does to me, the more I have to do to her in return."

3. For most men, sex has a goal- to reach orgasm. They believed the desire for sex is purly physical. Yet after climaxing they also may feel dissatisfied, then they did what they are"supposed" to do.

I must confess, but I can't do so for the rest of my species that I do have those kinda feelings stated in point 1 & 2. Maybe I am more "man"? Haha...

As for point 3, the men dun realised for us, sex is not only for orgasm and physical wants, it is more of an act of intimacy, or us willing to share ourselves with our men and tt people make love to satisfy their physical and emotional needs. People sometimes dun realised that the most satisfying love making session is when he is doing it with the one he loves. Its about connecting both physically and emotionally and sometimes spiritually.

Being naked in front of another human being (emtionally - pun intended) is an enormous risk for ppl who are used to hiding their feelings they conect with weakness.

Guess to really enjoy the ecstasy of a fulfilling sex act, the fundamentals of trust and acceptance in any relationship is still the main factor.... hmmm.... I am stating the obvious.. :p

Meet up

Met up with Viz the other day when I was shopping in AMK. Hmm... I'm glad his prospect is bright and of cos that he already has his goals in view. May success be yours, bro!*wink*

So what have I been busy with? Oh...of cos spend time with dear dear. Must communicate mah.... honeymoon period leh.

Went for fortune-telling at the River HongBao. Said the same thing with my prev one. Better fortune if I get married... best with kids. *rolleyes*

Nothing much happened. Work is work. No complaints too... heh heh...

Oh... had some inspirations for a poem... will work on it. :)

Chaozzz

Closed

Closed another chapter...... I'm glad :)

Eassy & Difficult

Easy is to get a place in someone's address book.
Difficult is to get a place in someone's heart.

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others.
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes

Easy is to talk without thinking.
Difficult is to refrain the tongue

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult is to heal the wound...

Easy is to forgive others.
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness

Easy is to set rules.
Difficult is to follow them...

Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult is to fight for a dream...

Easy is to show victory.
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity...

Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult to see the other side...

Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up...

Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult to give its real value...

Easy is to pray every night.
Difficult is to find God in small things...

Easy is to promise something to someone. Difficult is to fulfill that promise...

Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day...

Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult is to improve oneself...

Easy is to make mistakes.
Difficult is to learn from them...

Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it.

Easy is to think about improving.
Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action...

Easy is to think bad of others.
Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt...

Easy is to receive.
Difficult is to give

Easy to read this.
Difficult to follow

Easy is keep the friendship with words.
Difficult is to keep it with meanings.