Sunday, February 24, 2008

The time traveller's wife

by Audrey Niffenegger
This clever and inventive tale works on three levels: as an intriguing science fiction concept, a realistic character study and a touching love story. Henry De Tamble is a Chicago librarian with "Chrono Displacement" disorder; at random times, he suddenly disappears without warning and finds himself in the past or future, usually at a time or place of importance in his life. This leads to some wonderful paradoxes.

From his point of view, he first met his wife, Clare, when he was 28 and she was 20. She ran up to him exclaiming that she'd known him all her life. He, however, had never seen her before. But when he reaches his 40s, already married to Clare, he suddenly finds himself time travelling to Clare's childhood and meeting her as a 6-year-old. The book alternates between Henry and Clare's points of view, and so does the narration. Reed ably expresses the longing of the one always left behind, the frustrations of their unusual lifestyle, and above all, her overriding love for Henry. Likewise, Burns evokes the fear of a man who never knows where or when he'll turn up, and his gratitude at having Clare, whose love is his anchor.

The expressive, evocative performances of both actors convey the protagonists' intense relationship, their personal quirks and their reminiscences, making this a fascinating audio.

Interesting read..... :)

Saturday, February 23, 2008

Intimacy

Read this article in the latest issue of "Her World" on the moment after sex. Seems like we got our answer on our complain abt men ignoring the women and just turn over to sleep after sex. Its a symptom called "Post-orgasmic anxiety". Developing anxiety after orgasm and feel like running awayfrom their partners. Some points on this phenomenon.


1. Men also have the feeling that they are the ones doing all the work, and that they are responsible for the pleasure of the love making session and tt breds resentment. They may also develop negative emotions such as guilt, lonliness and frustration and do not know how to handle them.

2. Even if their female partners are active and enthusiastic, they may also have this notion that "Damnit! The more she does to me, the more I have to do to her in return."

3. For most men, sex has a goal- to reach orgasm. They believed the desire for sex is purly physical. Yet after climaxing they also may feel dissatisfied, then they did what they are"supposed" to do.

I must confess, but I can't do so for the rest of my species that I do have those kinda feelings stated in point 1 & 2. Maybe I am more "man"? Haha...

As for point 3, the men dun realised for us, sex is not only for orgasm and physical wants, it is more of an act of intimacy, or us willing to share ourselves with our men and tt people make love to satisfy their physical and emotional needs. People sometimes dun realised that the most satisfying love making session is when he is doing it with the one he loves. Its about connecting both physically and emotionally and sometimes spiritually.

Being naked in front of another human being (emtionally - pun intended) is an enormous risk for ppl who are used to hiding their feelings they conect with weakness.

Guess to really enjoy the ecstasy of a fulfilling sex act, the fundamentals of trust and acceptance in any relationship is still the main factor.... hmmm.... I am stating the obvious.. :p

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Meet up

Met up with Viz the other day when I was shopping in AMK. Hmm... I'm glad his prospect is bright and of cos that he already has his goals in view. May success be yours, bro!*wink*

So what have I been busy with? Oh...of cos spend time with dear dear. Must communicate mah.... honeymoon period leh.

Went for fortune-telling at the River HongBao. Said the same thing with my prev one. Better fortune if I get married... best with kids. *rolleyes*

Nothing much happened. Work is work. No complaints too... heh heh...

Oh... had some inspirations for a poem... will work on it. :)

Chaozzz