An entry from .....SruffyMedic

The Charles Philosophy

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schultz,the creator of the "Peanuts" comic strip. You don'thave to actually answer the questions. Just read thee-mail straight through, and you'll get the point.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America contest.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winner for best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade's worth of World Series winners.

How did you do?The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday. These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies.Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.6. Name half a dozen heroes whose stories have inspired you.

Easier?The lesson: The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. They are the ones that care.

Pass this on to those people who have made a difference in your life.

"Don't worry about the world coming to an end today. It's already tomorrow in Australia." -
Charles Schultz

BGR

Friends have been commenting that most of my entries are on relationships, well, my only area of concern at the present moment is BGR, of cos my posts centered ard the topic mah.. :p

Saw a newspaper article the other day. It is on the emergence of travelling trips catered for the singles. Hmm.... I think it is a very good idea wor. Since a big chunk of the spending cohort are young, single professionals, with lots of $$ on hand to spend. No commitments, are open to meeting other people and new sports or activities. Most of those trips are the more adventurous ones like hiking, tracking, diving etc. Haaa... but the catch is, you have to be single in order to join the group. Heee.. maybe me and a few single friends can join this kinda tour groups hor :D Clever minds of the business men. Gee.... hope I do have the eye for these kinda money making ideas if I want to run my own biz again... :p

The govt has been worrying that s'poren women are being left on the shelves especially those with tertiary education. And there are indeed some women who set their expectations too high for their counterparts liao, or are they? A survey done by one of the leading female magazine shows that 48% of the women interviewed agreed that we are too independent for our own good and men are intimidated by us while the rest think that we dun need men's approval. Well, studies and surveys have shown that s'porean men also find it stressful having a local gerfrend as their expectations are higher and the men have to keep on improving in order to satisfy them. Hmm..... like I always said, humans are a greedy lot of animals..... we like to have the best of both worlds, we want to be independent yet we want someone superior than us to look up to.....haizz... talk abt humans and their expectations. Maybe it is just us metropolitans, cos I was discussing with Viz that ppl were simplier then if the lifestyle is more laid back. Those ppl in the past have lower expectations and they are very contented with just marrying the Ah Niu Ge from the next village....hahahha...

Aiyah, dun think so much lar, I am happy now as a swinging single, gotta enjoy my singlehood first..... :p

Prata Session

Hilo, had a very fruitful prata session with 2 of my very old friends, Viz and Alex. :) At least now I know what I should do and how to handle certain situation. Haaaa..... throughly enjoyed myself this morning. Keep each other posted of the fishing session ya *wink*.

Got an insight while I was showering. I realised that I can remove my mental block on marriage le. Guess that means now I won't reject the idea of marriage, but kids is another matter. I was thinking it is our responsibility to have a blissful marriage and to sustain a good marriage, some sacrifices has to be made. Although I have heard countless of ppl saying these for infinte times, it suddenly stuck me just now what it really means. Glad that I'm back on track and is giving marriage a chance. :)

As for the rest, well, I can only say, maybe I bathe more, I will get more insight bah....HAhahahaa....

Nitez, gotta wake up tml for lesson in CDA lor.....

關 于 婚 姻 與 愛 情

關 于 婚 姻 與 愛 情 ， 一 組 5— 10歲 的 美 國 小 孩 給 出 了 他 們 的 答案 。 也 許听 起 來 傻 傻 的 ， 但 是 誰 能 說 孩 子 的 童 言 就 一 定 不 懂 事 呢 ？　 　

◇ 合 適 的 結 婚 年 齡 是 多 少 歲 ？　 　
◆ 84歲 吧 。 那 時 候 什 麼 也 不 用 做 ， 有 好 多 時 間 彼 此相愛 。 (朱 迪 ， 5歲 )　 　
◆ 等 我 讀 完 幼 兒 園 ， 就 得 開 始 考 慮 為 自 己 找 個 妻 子。(湯 米 ， 5歲 )

◇ 愛 情 是 怎 樣 發 生 的 呢 ？　 　
◆ 我 听 人 說 ， 這 和 身 上 的 味 道 有 關 。 大 人 們 都 很 喜歡用 香 水 。 (簡 ， 9歲 )　 　
◆ 我 想 大 概 會 被 一 支 箭 之 類 的 東 西 射 中 吧 — — — 應該不 疼 的 。 (哈 倫 ， 9歲 )　 　

◇ 愛 上 一 個 人 的 感 覺 如 何 ？　 　
◆ 如 果 會 像 學 拼 寫 那 麼 麻 煩 ， 我 可 不 想 試 。 太 花 時間 了 。 (里 奧 ， 7歲 )　 　

◇ 外 表 重 要 嗎 ？　 　
◆ 外 表 並 不 是 最 重 要 的 。 我 長 得 應 該 算 不 錯 了 ， 可是沒 听 說 過 有 誰 想 嫁 給 我 。 (加 里 ， 7歲 )　 　

◇ 為 什 麼 戀 人 們 總 是 手 牽 手 ？　 　
◆ 是 怕 戒 指 掉 下 來 吧 ！ 那 些 東 西 很 貴 的 。 (大 衛 ， 8歲)　 　

◇ 願 意 戀 愛 嗎 ？　 　
◆ 我 還 是 很 希 望 和 人 談 戀 愛 的 — — 只 要 別 在 電 視 放 《 貓 和 老 鼠 》 的 時 候 。 (鮑 比 ， 8歲 )　 　

◇ 怎 麼 讓 別 人 愛 上 你 ？　 　
◆ 告 訴 她 你 有 好 多 糖 。 (阿 朗 佐 ， 9歲 )　 　

◇ 怎 麼 判 斷 在 餐 廳 里 吃 飯 的 兩 個 大 人 是 不 是 在 戀 愛 ？　 　
◆ 看 看 是 誰 付 錢 。 談 戀 愛 的 男 人 都 願 意 付 錢 。 (約 翰， 9歲 )　 　
◆ 戀 愛 的 人 總 是 我 盯 著 你 ， 你 盯 著 我 ， 吃 的 東 西 都 涼了 。 (布 拉 德 ， 8歲 )　 　
◆ 戀 愛 的 人 準 會 叫 甜 品 — — — 他 們 心 里 準 是 很 甜 。(克里 斯 汀 ， 9歲 )　 　

◇ 當 一 個 人 說 “ 我 愛 你 ” 的 時 候 ， 心 里 想 著 什 麼 ？　 　
◆ 她 沒 準 在 想 ︰ 愛 是 愛 ， 不 過 最 好 他 能 勤 點 洗 澡 ，至 少 一 天 一 次 。 (米 歇 爾 ， 9歲 )　 　

◇ 應 該 什 麼 時 候 親 吻 自 己 喜 歡 的 人 ？　 　
◆ 除 非 我 有 足 夠 多 的 錢 ， 買 得 起 結 婚 戒 指 和 攝 像機 ，否 則 我 不 會 去 吻 一 個 女 孩 子 ， 因 為 女 孩 子 們 總 是 想 把 結 婚 那 天 錄 下 來 。 (吉 姆 ， 10歲 )　 　

◇ 愛 情 怎 樣 才 能 持 久 ？　 　
◆ 多 花 一 點 時 間 ， 不 要 老 是 想 著 上 班 。 (湯 姆 ， 7歲 )　 　
◆ 別 忘 了 她 的 名 字 — — — 那 樣 會 把 事 情 弄 糟 的 。 (羅杰 ， 8歲 )

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童言无忌, but what they say make sense too..... :)

不猶豫和不後悔

印度有一位知名的哲學家，天生一股特殊的文人氣質，某天，一個女子來敲他的門,她說：「讓我作你的妻子吧！錯過我，你將再也找不到比我更愛你的女人了！」

哲學家雖然也很中意她，但仍回答說：「讓我考慮考慮！」事後，哲學家用他一貫研究學問的精神，將結婚和不結婚的好、壞所在，分別條列下來， 才發現，好壞均等，真不知該如何抉擇？

於是，他陷入長期的苦惱之中，無論他又找出了什麼新的理由，都只是徒增選擇的困難。最後，他得出一個結論──人若在面臨抉擇而無法取捨的時候，應該選擇自己尚未經驗過的那一個。不結婚的處境我是清楚的，但結婚會是個怎樣的情況，我還不知道？

對！我該答應那個女人的央求。哲學家來到女人的家中，問女人的父親說：「你的女兒呢？請你告訴她，我考慮清楚了，我決定娶她為妻！」

女人的父親冷漠地回答：「你來晚了十年，我女兒現在已經是三個孩子的媽了！」

哲學家聽了，整個人幾乎崩潰，他萬萬沒有想到，向來自以為傲的哲學頭腦，最後換來的竟然是一場悔恨。

爾後二年，哲學家抑鬱成疾，臨死前，將自己所有的著作丟入火堆，只留下一段對人生的註解──

如果將人生一分為二，前半段的人生哲學是「不猶豫」，後半段的人生哲學是「不後悔」也許你曾經買了一件很喜歡的衣服卻捨不得穿，鄭重的供奉在衣櫃裡；許久之後， 當你再看見它的時候，卻發現它已經過時了。

所以，你就這樣跟它錯過了。也許你也曾經買了一塊漂亮的蛋糕卻捨不得吃，鄭重的把它供奉在冰箱裡，許久之後，當你再看見既時候,它已經過期了。所以，你也這樣與它錯過了。

沒有在最喜歡的時候上身的衣服，沒有在最可口的時候品嚐的蛋糕，就像沒有在最想做的時候去做的事情，都是遺憾。

生命也有保存期限，想做的事該趁早去做。

如果你只是把你的心願鄭重的供奉在心裡，卻未曾去實行，那麼唯一的結果就是與它錯過，一如那件過時的衣服，一如那塊過期的蛋糕。

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Am I like the philosopher who thinks too much? Should I just follow my heart and do what I really desire to do? Am I being very bad to forsake a relationship and to go into the next one? Should I try to slavage the broken relationship instead of trying for a new one? But all of us knows, once a heart or glass is broken, it will never be the same.......

以孩子挽救婚姻的錯

From 素黑療情

Jackson 男 28歲 教師

我是一個已離婚兩年的男人，那段痛苦的關係今天還不時纏繞著，影響我的工作和新感情關係。我和前妻有一個女兒，我和她的感情自結婚後很快便出現問題，期間我有婚外情。前妻知道後極其憤怒，不時埋怨我，遷怒我，我其後已經和那女子分開了，她還一直埋怨。

當時她剛好懷了孩子，以為既然有了孩子，是不是可以忘記過去，重頭來過呢？我一直以為孩子出生了，和她的感情會轉好的。誰知孩子出生了，她對我的怨恨有增無減，待孩子長大了，她更將對我的怨氣轉嫁到孩子身上，不住教女兒爸爸是衰人，背棄媽媽，不是個好爸爸。最後，我無法不和她分開，她又死命不肯離婚，說做錯事的不是她而是我，她不想背負離婚女人的身分。

可是，她的怨憤一直沒減，見過社工也沒用，我就和她一直糾纏了好幾年，期間她不讓我回家看兒子，不住的吵吵鬧鬧，天，我覺得很對不起無辜的女兒。當初沒有狠心一點離開，甚至不把孩子生下來，也許不至傷害她那麼深，現在要她承受上一代的怨恨，在沒有愛只有遷怒和埋怨的不健康家庭內成長，我感到十分內疚，卻相當無助。

直到兩年前，她的態度才有改變，本來死執著妻子的名份，最終也同意離婚。而不久她也遇上另一個男人戀愛了。我樂得鬆一口氣，可是，她到今天還常常以女兒威脅我，動不動便不讓我探望心愛的女兒。而和她的持續糾纏也影響我和新結識的女朋友的感情關係。

已錯的已錯了，我希望大家讀了真要三思別妄想以孩子挽救感情，最終害了他們。

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Children are always the innocent ones. Please practise caution when you have kids, cos whatever happened to them will affect their whole life. Be a responsible parent.

男人不想结婚的30个理由

1、不想在看球赛时，被一个妇女人死皮赖脸地强近着去看《流星花园》； 　　 　　
2、不想每月都要把刚发的薪水藏一些在办公室的抽屉里； 　　 　　
3、不想在星期天被一个妇女人押着去她老爸老妈家里，做那些老两口做不下来的粗笨活； 　　 　　4、不想因为脚没洗干净，就被一个女人要求重洗，否则请你去客厅睡沙发； 　　 　　
5、不想上街时刚看了两眼美媚，就被人狠踩一脚； 　　
6、不想因为随口说了她今天的菜不好吃，她就3天不再煮饭； 　　 　　
7、不想因为忘记了一个女人的生日，她一周都对你不冷不热； 　　
8、不想一个人的薪水，被两个人甚至三个人花掉； 　　 　　
9、不想在星期天睡懒觉时，被一个女人拉起来去百货大楼买打折商品； 　　 　　
10、不想陪一个女人逛了几次商场，自己就破了产； 　　 　　
11、不想因为有个声音柔美的女同事给家里打了个电话，就被一个女人审查盘问到深夜； 　　 　　12、不想有一个女人，经常神经质地缠着你问：你究竟爱不爱我？ 　　 　　
13、不想在喝茶时，被打手机查问，你还必须耐心而温柔地向她解释，你现在在某茶楼，而不 是夜总会； 　　 　　
14、不想被一个女人经常打击你的自尊，说你不如张三挣钱多，不如李四会操持家务，不如王 五幽默； 　　 　　
15、不想刚过40岁时，就悄悄吃补肾的东东； 　
16、不想在朋友约你出去喝酒时，迫于一个女人的压力，不得不撒谎说你要加班，事实上，只是有一堆衣服要 你去洗； 　　 　　
17、不想因为回家晚了，就被人关在门外，还要对领居说：哎，忘带钥匙了； 　　
18、不想在一个女人做了一个新发型或穿了一个新衣服时，违心地说：漂亮极了！ 　　
19、不想偶尔潇洒一次，比如买一个名牌打火机或吃了一次海鲜，便有一个女人在你耳边唠叨：这日子咋过 哟！ 　　 　　
20、不想有人老是借给你洗衣服的机会，名正言顺地搜你口袋； 　　
21、不想有人老惦记着怎样打开你的抽屉和电子信箱； 　　 　　
22、不想因为在梦里无意中喊出了另一个女人的名字，就有人负气回了娘家，害得你吃了近一周的方便面； 　　 　　
23、不想每次斗嘴后，都是自己先妥协，先认错，即使自己很无辜，但太太永远是正确的； 　　 　　24、不想有人数落你过年时送给你父母的礼物比给她父母的礼物值钱； 　　 　　
25、不想给自己的母亲找一个打冷战和持久战的对手； 　　 　　
26、不想每次出差回来，总有人用怀疑和不安的眼神审视你； 　　 　　
27、不想因为没涨薪和升职，便被一个女人贬为“窝囊废”； 　　 　　
28、不想因为没去找和你的孩子打了架的孩子的家长理论，就被人怀疑“你是不是男人？” 　　29、不想在上网聊天时，背后总有一双忧郁而警惕的眼睛，或者有人经常把登了网恋悲剧故事的杂志递给你 看，并意味深长地说：网络是个陷阱哦！ 　　 　　
30、不想在写类似于上面这样的文字时，被一个女人揪着耳朵斥责：我为你付出了这么多，你还如此不满足 ！

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What's your reason? Come tell, tell.... :p

Tired, disappointed, scared

Hi there, quite busy on my 2 rest days. :) Went to celebrate Qi's birthday on the first rest nite. We had steamboat at Labradour Park. Very interesting and of cos because it is near to my fav sea.... :) Then on my second off day went out to celebrate a frend's "post" birthday celebration, cos it is no longer belated, it is long overdue liao. Hahaha....

Feeling sleepy now... but I still have to urge to pen down some tots before they evaporated.. :(

Feeling lousy 2day..... cos I was commented that I'm not zai enough when handling patient. Someone said I look like as if I dun know what's going on. Am I that bad? Guess everyone will have jitters whenever they go out for calls that they are unfamiliar with bah... Haizzz... I also dun know. Think I will get the PMs to drill me everyday and I will make sure I study on my every day duty! Really have to prep for lvl 3. Time will go by really really fast....and before you know, its Oct already!!! Gosh, really hope I can clear and be good in my lvl 3. Dun wish to disappoint anybody, especially myself.

Did a drill today, found put that I missed a lot of tiny tiny things that would add up to pretty big thing during my exam. Pls focus, really need to focus... I need a lot of experience, a lot of them.---------------

Scared, did I mentioned abt the dream I had in my fire post? I wasn't feeling scared than, but today when I think abt it, really a bit eerie and scary. Kaozzz, tot I m always very heng one, will not enounter this kinda stuff, but guess I was having my menses? Anyway, think I will get someone to sleep with me the next time I sleep in the female bunk.

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My eyes are screaming to close now........Zzzzzz

George Carlin's wife recently passed away.
The gross and mouthy comedian of the 70's and 80's has written something very eloquent... and so very appropriate for these times.

A wonderful Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all 'mean it'. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

People make mistakes ..!! Thats why pencils have erasers..!!!!

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Just send out an sms to someone after I read this.....

To be or not to be?

Went for the "tea" session yesterday with OC. Haiz, why is it so diff to be efficient and firm without sacrificing your popularity? In order to get things done and to instill discipline, how are you going to deal if your ppl still do it after numerous warnings? If you bring them up to higher managment, they will hate you for life. What will I do if I were in their shoes? Will I go for efficency and discipline, or will I go for popularity. I wasn't very popular then what, maybe I shouldn't care abt it so much. Haiz, difficult wor..... and you are so disappointed with the response with the rest. OC is correct, we only know how to complian and demand, but never take the mirror and look at ourselves. Some of the response from the fire side was really outrageous. You would wonder who would response in that way.

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Was pretty satisfied with my calls last nite, though I still miss some tiny details. I thought I handled the cases quite well. Yeah! :)

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Saw a bit of a show just now, haizzzz...... the ignorance and narrow view of common ppl.... and of cos the self-centeredness. So disappointed with mankind.... *shakehead*

Meaningful Advises

1. Do not walk behind me, for I may not lead.
Do not walk ahead of me, for I may not follow.
Do not walk beside me for the path is narrow.
In fact just fuck off and leave me alone.

2. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a broken fan belt and a flat tyre.

3. The darkest hour is just before dawn. So if you' re going to steal your neighbour' s milk, that' s the time to do it.

4. Sex is like air. It' s not important unless you aren't getting any.

5. Don' t be irreplaceable. If you can' t be replaced, you can' t be promoted.

6. No one is listening until you fart.

7. Always remember you' re unique. Just like everyone else.

8. Never test the depth of the water with both feet.

9. If you think nobody cares whether you' re alive or dead, try missing a couple of mortgage payments.

10. Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you' re a mile away and you have their shoes.

11. If at first you don' t succeed, skydiving is not for you.

12. Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach him how to fish, and he will sit in a boat and drink beer all day.

13. If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

14. If you tell the truth, you don' t have to remember anything.

15. Some days you are the bug; some days you are the windscreen.

16. Don' t worry; it only seems kinky the first time.

17. Good judgment comes from bad experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment.

18. The quickest way to double your money is to fold it in half and put it back in your pocket.

19. A closed mouth gathers no foot.

20. Duct tape is like the Force. It has a light side and a dark side, and it holds the universe together.

21. There are two theories to arguing with women. Neither one works.

22. Generally speaking, you aren't learning much when your lips are moving.

23. Experience is something you don' t get until just after you need it.

24. Man is incomplete until marriage. Then, he is really finished.

25. Man with no eye sees better than man with no mind.

26. If life was a box of chocolates then sex must be the only caramel-coated candy in it.

27. Wife = Worries Inherited For Eternity

28. A big tide overcomes a small one, but a tsunami overcomes everything.

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Hahahhaa..... I like these.... :p