Intimacy

Read this article in the latest issue of "Her World" on the moment after sex. Seems like we got our answer on our complain abt men ignoring the women and just turn over to sleep after sex. Its a symptom called "Post-orgasmic anxiety". Developing anxiety after orgasm and feel like running awayfrom their partners. Some points on this phenomenon.


1. Men also have the feeling that they are the ones doing all the work, and that they are responsible for the pleasure of the love making session and tt breds resentment. They may also develop negative emotions such as guilt, lonliness and frustration and do not know how to handle them.

2. Even if their female partners are active and enthusiastic, they may also have this notion that "Damnit! The more she does to me, the more I have to do to her in return."

3. For most men, sex has a goal- to reach orgasm. They believed the desire for sex is purly physical. Yet after climaxing they also may feel dissatisfied, then they did what they are"supposed" to do.

I must confess, but I can't do so for the rest of my species that I do have those kinda feelings stated in point 1 & 2. Maybe I am more "man"? Haha...

As for point 3, the men dun realised for us, sex is not only for orgasm and physical wants, it is more of an act of intimacy, or us willing to share ourselves with our men and tt people make love to satisfy their physical and emotional needs. People sometimes dun realised that the most satisfying love making session is when he is doing it with the one he loves. Its about connecting both physically and emotionally and sometimes spiritually.

Being naked in front of another human being (emtionally - pun intended) is an enormous risk for ppl who are used to hiding their feelings they conect with weakness.

Guess to really enjoy the ecstasy of a fulfilling sex act, the fundamentals of trust and acceptance in any relationship is still the main factor.... hmmm.... I am stating the obvious.. :p