Once upon a time when we were still young, we had this innocent and utopia idea of living happily ever after with our love ones. Girls will meet their knights in shinning armour and boys will meet their gentle and beautiful princesses.
Then comes the time when we are older and have more definite idea of love. It is no longer staying in a castle, being bullied by ugly step sisters or slaying dragons. It is about heartaches, heart racing, tears, laughter. It is about being with the person you love 24/7, about wanting to make the person happy, about waiting beside the phone for under the block for hours, about wanting to provide for the person and being reliable for your love one to lean on you.
Then we lean about the damages love can inflict the hard way. Then we start to build a fortress around us. Then we start to close up. Then we start to demand more instead of giving. In order not be hurt we stop loving. I read this article in this month CLEO magazine. One of the interviewee mentioned the negative examples of those around her.. friends and family ended up in separation or divorce caused her to lose faith in marriages. If the r/s is going to end badly, why go into one in the beginning?
Men and women are getting more selfish and self-centered. They will place themselves first before their partners. We are talking about the majority here. Infidelity is not uncommon among young couples. Is it because we are greedier? We sought to live life to the fullest? Not to have any regrets? To enjoy life to the fullest? To experience love again?
Aye, me too lar. Self-centered. Expect people to love me as much as I love them. Is expectation tolerable in a relationship? Should we still maintain the notion of "Love is giving without expecting anything in return"? Is it still feasible in our current context? Shouldn't a relationship be of equal standing? Giving and claiming as much? Is this our definition and expectation of love now? That we will turn our heads away if it doesn't work out the way we want?
Some of us will want things to fall into place before we embark on another project in life. For example, career before marriage. Actually it is the most logical approach. We have all outgrown the phrase and know that we cannot live on love alone. Assuring the dough is the way to go cos if without it you can forget about a happy marriage or relationship. In the end we love our career more than our partners. Some people derived their self-worth from their jobs too. They are in control only at their playground and no where else. So is that really such a puzzle that we will rather love our computers rather than another person?
Then after working our ass off, we will be too tired to care about another person. No problem at all that we need a little personal space to unwind and take care of ourselves first but sometimes we just take things for granted and forget to thank and appreciate those who love us. So we will want someone who comes when we need them and leave us alone when we want some "me" time, do not complain when we dun have time to spend with them, yet show us the care and concern when we need them. Hmm.... sounds too good to be true? It may just happen in the near future. You can customise your virtual partner in terms of looks, personality and what you want them to do in different situations. Well, if I have the money, maybe I will research more into this. Think this will be a multi billion venture...hahaha.
So how do you define love? And how are you doing to deal with it when it finds you? Good luck! *wink*
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