Compare the supportive wife who packs her husband' s suitcase for him whenever he needs to travel, to the wife who complains bitterly about being left alone at home. Which husband will have a better trip?
Now consider the husband who picks his wife up when she has to work late, to the Homer Simpson-type who waits for his wife to come home and cook his dinner and then complains that his beer is warm. Which wife do you think will feel happy and confident in her career?
We all need our daily dose of hero worship, and who better to enlist as our cheerleaders than the people we go home to at the end of the day?
Most people don't think about their career when choosing a life partner, believing that everything will work out eventually. However, relationships do run aground when courting gives way to the more predictable rhythm of daily life.
The commitment to the relationship hasn't changed. But at this point, the couple needs to change gears to head towards new achievements. The trick to changing gears successfully as a couple or family is to have everyone in the same car first.
As adults, we should respect one another's jobs, anticipate career changes and hiccups, and, above all, honour the individual's right to manage life as they need to. Initiate career chats with your partner. Let your children take part if a major career change is imminent. Inform family members so that they can stand by to help or advise as necessary. Of course, it would be prudent for you and your partner to discuss your respective careers and aspirations together before you make any kind of commitment. Partners who have shared goals are more likely to achieve them.
They stand a good chance of surviving work stress if they both understand what they are working towards. They can make decisions confidently, knowing they have their partner's support. They are also likely to attain a deeper sense of satisfaction with their work and life.
You are unlikely to meet a perfect someone who wants all the same things you want. We are different people and we will each have our own dreams.
However, if you take the time to really learn who your partner is, what his or her dreams are, you will find that you have many shared goals, for example, a home, children, a trip to a foreign country, and so on.
These are great dreams you can both peg your careers on. Knowing you are working towards the same goals can be an exhilarating element in a relationship. There is more to share, be it fear, failure or success.
Compatibility tests are supposed to match you to the person whose profile is most similar to yours, but I have found that these tests are more useful for rooting out the mismatches!
Looking at potential matches, you begin to understand how wildly two people can differ even when all other criteria point to a supposed match. For relationships and careers to succeed, it is important that both parties are supportive of one another. Your occupation reflects who you are, so to have a partner who does not support your career choices can be emotionally draining and destructive.
Often, when you meet people in their 40s who are successful, you will find that they have extremely supportive partners, and that as a couple, they are keen for each other to excel. They find their partner's achievements a significant source of pride and will not hesitate to say so.
Younger people tend to be more focused on their own individual success and less concerned about how their partner is faring. While this is not unusual, couples and families could do so much better when they set out to succeed together.
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Something to think abt........
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